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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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I need you too much already, lah! :o{

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 24 Jan 19 in Demanding, Dire need for love & approval, Needs vs. Preferences, Uncategorized |

I need you too much already, lah!  Well, that is they way we might say it in Thailand or other Southeast Asian countries.  But in spite of the charming local syntax, I reckon that the irrational belief that drives this sentiment is very nearly universal.  Taken to the the extreme, and combined in a cocktail of other […]

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 11 Jan 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks.  Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the fonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]

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What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 28 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Emotions |

  When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening  or (2) unhealthfully negative . . .    615 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 23 Dec 18 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average! 1,495 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein : Negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,202 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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How do we manage “job burnout”?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 13 Dec 18 in Demanding, Demanding, Depression, job burn out, Low Frustration Tolerance, Perfectionism |

A reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .  5,654 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.

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Is “indifference” a better option than “strong preference”?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 13 Dec 18 in Demanding, Emotions, Needs vs. Preferences |

Is “indifference”  a valid alternative to having a “strong preference”?  We have been having a lively one over that. 3,597 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-07-17 19:12:21.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 5 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   2,561 total views, 3 views today […]

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 25 Nov 18 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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