We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . . 2,459 total views, 3 views today […]
2,459 total views, 3 views today
I need you too much already, lah! Well, that is they way we might say it in Thailand or other Southeast Asian countries. But in spite of the charming local syntax, I reckon that the irrational belief that drives this sentiment is very nearly universal. Taken to the the extreme, and combined in a cocktail of other […]
2,826 total views, 5 views today
Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives. Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]
702 total views, 1 views today
A reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . . 5,517 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.
5,517 total views, 1 views today
valentine, love, romance, mating, dating, needs, preferences, disguised shoulds, musts
768 total views, no views today
Hi REBT-mates! Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 440 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.
440 total views, 1 views today
Boss Mr. Dithers bullies employee Dagwood”Blondie” comic strip King Features Syndicate Does the usual advice for improved communications skills and more assertiveness help us to deal with a boss who bullies? 2,342 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-03-11 21:21:31.
2,342 total views, 1 views today