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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 16 Jun 19 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 15 Jun 19 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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Baby I Need Your Lovin’ . . . Really?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 7 May 19 in Awfulzing, Demanding, Love and Romance, Needs vs. Preferences, should statements |

Baby I Need Your Lovin’   Baby, I need your lovin’ I got to have all your lovin’ Baby, I need your lovin’ Got to have all your lovin’ ~The Four Tops, 1964      Awwwwww!  Ain’t that romantic?  Don’t that just make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?     Ain’t it the […]

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 12 Apr 19 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average! 1,742 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,444 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 16 Mar 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks.  Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]

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What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 14 Mar 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Emotions |

  When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening  or (2) unhealthfully negative . . .    845 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.

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Are opinions incompatible with REBT-CBT?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 4 Mar 19 in Acceptance, Demanding, Events, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA |

Are opinions incompatible with REBT???         What do you think? 872 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-04-20 18:13:40.

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A loyal reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .  6,064 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.

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