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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,237 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 […]

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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Self-help forms.

Willie T has been making some interesting comments about whether REBT is “talk therapy” or something else. He shares some additional information which hits on a sore spot of mine–mechanically filling out forms–and is worth exploring in greater depth.  Here’s Willie.  We’ve taken the liberty of running the SpellCheck for him.  Hehehe . . . […]

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Pissed beyond all measure!!!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 21 Jan 19 in Anger, Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Uncategorized |

Have you ever been “pissed beyond all measure”? Are you ready for your morning REBT safari?   2,621 total views, no views today Originally posted 2014-10-17 18:57:05.

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Please don’t catastrophize over politics!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 16 Jan 19 in Anxiety, Awfulizing, Awfulzing |

It’s not as bad as you think!  . . .  Or is it ??? 106 total views, no views today Originally posted 2018-11-15 19:37:25.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.” Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,092 total views, no views today […]

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein : Negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,200 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

“The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing. 1,119 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 25 Nov 18 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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Can Suicide ever be a rational act?

In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having thoughts about harming yourself that are scaring you, pick […]

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