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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 11 Jan 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks.  Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the fonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 8 Dec 18 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 1,193 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 7 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

  HOMEWORK OK, we know that REBT emphasizes various types of demands, including but not limited to, shoulds, oughts and musts, as well as a number of what I refer to as  disguised shoulds typically insincere  “Why?” questions. 1,371 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 5 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   2,516 total views, 1 views today […]

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

“The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing. 1,085 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Can Suicide ever be a rational act?

In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having thoughts about harming yourself that are scaring you, pick […]

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Guest Author, Michael R. Edelstein : Beat Your Smoking Addiction

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 24 Nov 18 in Addictions, Alcoholism, Compulsions, musterbation |

Beat Your Smoking Addiction   By Dr. Michael R. Edelstein, Author “Three Minute Therapy” Three Minute Refutations (TMR) involve a powerful exercise for changing your addictive thinking. 5,337 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-07-31 00:00:19.

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I NEED love! (not!)

valentine, love, romance, mating, dating, needs, preferences, disguised shoulds, musts

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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” and a “Who cares?” attitude an answer to anxiety?

How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school?  Read Vinayak’s question and our answer.   3,685 total views, no views today Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,Fox News Analyst   We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (“shoulds,” et al) is at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,124 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.

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