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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 8 Dec 18 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 1,116 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 7 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

  HOMEWORK OK, we know that REBT emphasizes various types of demands, including but not limited to, shoulds, oughts and musts, as well as a number of what I refer to as  disguised shoulds typically insincere  “Why?” questions. 1,289 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 5 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   2,457 total views, 1 views today […]

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

“The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing. 1,031 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Can Suicide ever be a rational act?

In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having thoughts about harming yourself that are scaring you, pick […]

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Video : Albert Ellis’ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)- Daniel Man of Reason

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 11 Nov 18 in Basics, Books & Media, Demanding, musty thinking |

I would like to share an excellent video by Daniel Phillip.  Dan’s short presentation impressed me because it  offers a clear and “user-friendly” introduction to REBT, and provides some insight into REBT’s emphasis on “musty” thinking and “awfulizing.” Click the blue link below to watch the video, continue reading and add your comments and questions 880 total […]

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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” and a “Who cares?” attitude an answer to anxiety?

How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school?  Read Vinayak’s question and our answer.   3,647 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,Fox News Analyst   We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (“shoulds,” et al) is at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,050 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 21 Sep 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds,” 854 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 21 Sep 18 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

Hi REBT-mates! Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 440 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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