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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 5 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   2,459 total views, 3 views today […]

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I need you too much already, lah! :o{

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 4 Dec 18 in Demanding, Dire need for love & approval, Needs vs. Preferences, Uncategorized |

I need you too much already, lah!  Well, that is they way we might say it in Thailand or other Southeast Asian countries.  But in spite of the charming local syntax, I reckon that the irrational belief that drives this sentiment is very nearly universal.  Taken to the the extreme, and combined in a cocktail of other […]

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

“The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing. 1,031 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Will REBT make you a “Pollyanna” ???

    Will practicing REBT turn you into a Pollyanna ???     1,402 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-12-30 03:55:27.

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I NEED love! (not!)

valentine, love, romance, mating, dating, needs, preferences, disguised shoulds, musts

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 21 Sep 18 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

Hi REBT-mates! Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 440 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,005 total views, no views today Originally […]

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Baby I Need Your Lovin’ . . . Really?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 7 Sep 18 in Awfulzing, Demanding, Love and Romance, Needs vs. Preferences, should statements |

Baby I Need Your Lovin'   Baby, I need your lovin' I got to have all your lovin' Baby, I need your lovin' Got to have all your lovin' ~The Four Tops, 1964      Awwwwww!  Ain't that romantic?  Don't that just make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?     Ain't it the […]

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