Judge behavior, not self
The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA) […]
Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?
Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being? . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . . Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.
Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 Originally posted […]
Why is it so wrong to want to kill yourself?
A reader of my lengthy post on suicide on another site responds in part “Why is it so wrong to want to move on [kill yourself] before your natural physical body tells you to This is not expressing a view more a question for discussion” Originally posted 2014-08-16 18:12:15.
How to deal with your past errors?
By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future.” ~Albert Ellis Originally posted 2017-06-17 06:21:04.