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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 23 Jun 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 1,157 total views, no views today Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 16 Jun 19 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 12 Jun 19 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 1,529 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 10 May 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . . 1,956 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 12 Apr 19 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average! 1,741 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,444 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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To Whine or Not To Whine

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 16 Mar 19 in Humor, Irrationality in the arts & media, Rational Songs & Limericks |

Jimmy Walter, one of the regular contributors at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup was generous enough to allow us to use his wonderful spoof on Hamlet’s timeless soliloquy.   Special treat, at the end, see video of Dr. Ellis’s singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song…   1,099 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-01-23 08:05:17.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 16 Mar 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks.  Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,476 total views, no views today Originally posted […]

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