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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,235 total views, no views today Originally posted […]

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 30 Jan 19 in Albert Ellis, Anger, Books & Media, bookshop, Demanding, Low Frustration Tolerance |

God knows, we all need this one these days!   128 total views, no views today Originally posted 2018-12-10 12:00:48.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 11 Jan 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks.  Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the fonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]

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I cried because I had no shoes…

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 3 Jan 19 in Awfulzing, Emotions, Guilt & Shame |

I cried because I had no shoes . . 2,281 total views, 4 views today Originally posted 2017-03-25 07:16:16.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 23 Dec 18 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average! 1,494 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.” Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,092 total views, no views today […]

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein : Negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,200 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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TRIGGER WARNING!

TRIGGER WARNING! Sorry to be the one to tell you; people, places and things “out there” do not trigger you. You trigger yourself by your distorted interpretations of the trigger. Of course, to understand that, you first need to understand something about REBT-CBT. 720 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-10-28 17:04:18.

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Not fair!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 14 Dec 18 in Basics, Culture, Entitlement, Low Frustration Tolerance |

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