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Don’t take it personally!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 20 Jan 19 in Emotions, Rational living, Rational Thinking |

Everyone is familiar with the expression “Don’t take it personally!” Good advice in my opinion, but what does it mean and how can we actually achieve it? 1,235 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-04-29 21:30:29.

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Anger Management Workbook

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 11 Jan 19 in Books & Media, bookshop |

  The Anger Management Workbook: Use the  S.T.O.P.  Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior 81 total views, no views today Originally posted 2018-12-09 03:20:41.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 11 Jan 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks.  Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the fonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]

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What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 28 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Emotions |

  When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening  or (2) unhealthfully negative . . .    615 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.” Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,092 total views, no views today […]

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein : Negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,202 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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Is “indifference” a better option than “strong preference”?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 13 Dec 18 in Demanding, Emotions, Needs vs. Preferences |

Is “indifference”  a valid alternative to having a “strong preference”?  We have been having a lively one over that. 3,597 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-07-17 19:12:21.

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 8 Dec 18 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 1,233 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 7 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

  HOMEWORK OK, we know that REBT emphasizes various types of demands, including but not limited to, shoulds, oughts and musts, as well as a number of what I refer to as  disguised shoulds typically insincere  “Why?” questions. 1,427 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 5 Dec 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   2,561 total views, 3 views today […]

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