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What REBT concept was most difficult for you?
Hi REBT Mates!
1. What was the one REBT-CBT concept, principle, technique or other issue that was most difficult for you to grasp and learn to apply in the beginning?
2. How did you come to master it?
3. How is that going for you now?
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Originally posted 2019-02-25 17:59:13.
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Nga Nguyen
Tue 26 Feb 19
The most difficult construct at first was differentiating the unconditional must from the conditional must. What made it hard was my thinking for the conditional must that “a” is required for “b to be. For instance one has to pass their classes (“a”) to get their degree (“b”). The requirement of “a” for “b” to be present threw me off as I thought that the conditional must is no different from the unconditional one given the necessity of “a” I have since mastered differentiating the two by understanding that a conditional must merely reflects an intellectual awareness of b needing a to occur first and that it only shifts to an unconditional must once the person brings to the a and b their imperatives and thus insist that since the person wants a and b they have to have it. I’ve come to understand as well that people tend to think both the intellect part and the imperative part when they think their conditional must. For example thinking “I have to pass my classes to get my degree” also entails their concurrently thinking I absolutely have to pass my classes and I have to get the degree because I very much like to pass and have the degree. I now know conditional musts are only implicated in a person’s intellect and unconditional musts are implicated in a person’s emotion.