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Are you “rational”?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 8 Aug 17 in Basics, Happiness, Rational living, Rational Thinking |

mrspockThe word rational is obviously fundamental to REBT. After all, we are Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. However, I am afraid this is misleading to many as REBT uses the word in a special way . . .

Sat 29 Aug 2015, 7:31 pm

Hi REBTmates!

I reckon that most people at first regard rational and logical as pretty much the same thing.  Fair enough as that is the first definition in “New Oxford American Dictionary,”

ra·tion·al /ˈrashənl, ˈrashnəl/

â–¶ adjective

  1. Based on or in accordance with reason or logic: I’m sure there’s a perfectly rational explanation.
  • (of a person) able to think clearly, sensibly, and logically: Andrea’s upset—she’s not being very rational.
  • endowed with the capacity to reason: man is a rational being.

It is important, however, to appreciate that REBT does mean rational as logical, but expands this meaning to include the idea helpful.  In most cases helpful is as important as logical, and in many cases it is the more important aspect of the word. In REBT we not only want our actions to be logical, but helpful as well. Helpful in what way?  More REBT shading; helpful is thinking, emoting and behaving in ways that help us get more of what we want and less of what we don’t want, but—very important–in socially responsible ways.  A safecracker, for example, may improve his skills at safecracking which enables him to get more money (what he wants) and less poverty (what he doesn’t want).  However, safecracking is not socially responsible behavior (does not further mutually supportive relationships in his  social group (outside of other safecrackers, perhaps), and is therefore irrational in REBT semantics.

 

One of the erroneous conclusions people insist on making about REBT is that its goal is to get people to become clones of Star Trek’s Mr. Spock, devoid of emotion, driven by and operating entirely from logic. While Mr. Spock may be a compelling fictional character in a beloved SF franchise, attempting to emulate him in real life, if it were even possible, would not be healthy, and could even represent serious emotional disturbance and social dysfunction.  No, REBT wants people to have full, rich emotional lives and the E in REBT of course stands for Emotive signifying the importance REBT places on emotions, not only in the context of therapy, but in the enjoyment of a full, rich life.

 

If you are stuck in the groove of thinking about rational merely as logical, it will aid your understanding and practice of REBT tremendously to being thinking of rational thinking as helpful thinking, as thinking, emoting and behaving in ways which help you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want in socially responsible ways, as those thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, emotions and actions which aid you in living a full rich life.

I always appreciate your comments and questions.

~Rex

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3 Comments

  • Luna says:

    Thanks for this very “helpful” blog post! I am a highly emotionally-driven being, as well as an empath, and a lot of times I don’t resonate with the more logic-minded ways that the psychological sciences approach human behavior. So the way that you described the “R” in REBT really helps me understand it in a way that feels good.

  • rexall says:

    Hi Luna,

    Thanks for your kind words.

    It is only for teaching purposes that we make a sharp distinction between thinking, emoting and physical sensations. In practice, to the extent that such distinctions exist, the boundaries are fuzzy, freely informing one another. There is an intimate relationship between thinking, emoting and feeling, like entwined threads in one tapestry. If you “look around,” I think you will notice that your strong emotional reactions are always accompanied by equally strong beliefs, attitudes, prejudices and other convictions. The key question is are these convictions helpful (rational) or do they lead to unpleasant emoting and self-defeating behaving?

    Warm regards,

    Rex

  • Luna says:

    Hi Rex, thanks so much for your very thoughtful reply! I do recognize how intertwined these inner-workings of our being are. It takes some skill and self-awareness to discern between the various layers of ourselves. And even doing so makes it no less fascinating how complex we really are!

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