A reader is confused about labels and self-rating
 Rate behavior . . . not self, and you are doing good ePrime and on the right track for doing good REBT. This process is even more comprehensible and user-friendly if you learn something about ePrime, which is not too much of a stretch
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ePrime not only discourages you, but actually prevents you from thinking/stating things such as “I am a failure!” and nudges you toward more sane and rational thinking/speaking along the REBT lines of
I failed. It’s a bummer,
but not the end of the world.
It is a hassle, not a horror.
I can learn from the experience and do better next time.
But it does not make me a failure
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“I am a failure” (and all the other negative I am a ______“) is depressing, discouraging, de-motivating, leads to unsound conclusions, poor judgment and bad decisions. More important, it simply IS NOT TRUE. There is no such thing as A FAILURE. Note the article “a” deliberately included in the phrase. In their books and writings, all the gifted REBT-CBT-GS thinkers take great care to make this case and to walk you through the steps of how they arrived at this conclusion. Many newbies, I suspect, write it off as some kind of metaphor or positive thinking kind of thing. But on the contrary, I see is as literal fact, as true and solid and evident as the sun rising in the East. There is no such thing as a failure. Say it again! There is no such thing as a failure!
Now, if you can actually say it and understand how and why it is so, you are on your way!
Fondly,
Rex
Rex@REBTinfo.com
Originally posted 2013-07-17 02:39:22.
Contact: Rex@REBTinfo.com
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