Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 7,931 total views […]
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Tags: absolutes, demanding, demands, must, musterbation, ought, should
Why is it so wrong to want to kill yourself?
A reader of my lengthy post on suicide on another site responds in part “Why is it so wrong to want to move on [kill yourself] before your natural physical body tells you to This is not expressing a view more a question for discussion” 3,574 total views Originally posted 2014-08-16 18:12:15.
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Tags: acceptance, cognitive distortions, suicide
How to deal with your past errors?
By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future.” ~Albert Ellis 2,999 total views Originally posted 2017-06-17 06:21:04.
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Tags: daming, downing, Ellis quotes, rating, the past
“Unconditional” Self Acceptance ???
What does “Unconditional” in Unconditional Self Acceptance Mean ??? A reader says that his English teacher advised that he avoid “modifiers” as they weaken the strength of the word they are modifying. So, rather than “Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA)” he just leaves it at “self acceptance.” Nothing wrong with that, but it does raise some […]
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A reader is confused about labels and self-rating
Rate behavior . . . not self, and you are doing good ePrime and on the right track for doing good REBT. This process is even more comprehensible and user-friendly if you learn something about ePrime, which is not too much of a stretch 4,647 total views Originally posted 2013-07-17 02:39:22.
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Tags: globalizaing, over-generalizing, people rating, rating, self-acceptance, self-esteem
Task perfection vs. self-perfection
Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]
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Escape the “Self Esteem” Trap! Today!
So called “self-esteem” is a fallacy, a racket invented by what I call the “Self Esteem MAFIA” ~Rex 3,034 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2017-03-21 21:08:40.
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Tags: acceptance, downing, labeling, name calling, rating, self-acceptance, self-esteem, ULA, unconditional life acceptance, unconditional other acceptance, unconditional self acceptance, UOA, USA
Are opinions incompatible with REBT-CBT?
Are opinions incompatible with REBT??? What do you think? 2,010 total views Originally posted 2013-04-20 18:13:40.
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Tags: acceptance, opinion, opinions
Don’t Let ’em See You Sweat!
This from an old friend from the REBT-CBT-FORUM@yahoogroups.com whom we have not heard from for a long time. This person has been struggling with anxiety and although works diligently applying REBT-CBT techniques, does not appear to be getting much traction. Although I am not psychic, I think I may have an idea as to why. […]
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Tags: anxiety, perspiration, phobia, shame attacking, sweat, sweating
“Bad People” ???
Most people think here are a lot of bad people running around in the world . . . ~Sam Harris 2,006 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2017-08-15 21:53:26.
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Tags: acceptance, beliefs, distorted thinking, free will, ideas, mindfulness, personal responsibility, Sam Marris, self
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