A reader is confused about labels and self-rating

Rate behavior . . . not self, and you are doing good ePrime and  on the right track for doing good REBT.  This process is even more comprehensible and user-friendly if you learn something about ePrime, which is not too much of a stretch   Originally posted 2013-07-17 02:39:22.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 13 Apr 25 in Acceptance, Perfectionism, Rating, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection, ULA, UOA, USA |

  Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]

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Escape the “Self Esteem” Trap! Today!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 8 Apr 25 in Acceptance, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |

  So called “self-esteem” is a fallacy, a racket invented by what I call the “Self Esteem MAFIA”  ~Rex Originally posted 2017-03-21 21:08:40.

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Are opinions incompatible with REBT-CBT?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 16 Mar 25 in Acceptance, Demanding, Events, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA |

Are opinions incompatible with REBT???         What do you think? Originally posted 2013-04-20 18:13:40.

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Don’t Let ’em See You Sweat!

This from an old friend from the REBT-CBT-FORUM@yahoogroups.com whom we have not heard from for a long time.  This person has been struggling with anxiety and although works diligently applying REBT-CBT techniques, does not appear to be getting much traction. Although I am not psychic, I think I may have an idea as to why. […]

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“Bad People” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 28 Feb 25 in Emotions, Mindfulness, Rating, REBT & Other therapies compared |

Most people think here are a lot of bad people running around in the world . . .                  ~Sam Harris Originally posted 2017-08-15 21:53:26.

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What is REBT?

Posted by Will Ross on Thu 13 Feb 25 in Acceptance, Basics, Guest Author, Guilt & Shame, Happiness, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA, What is REBT - CBT? |

This post is pinned to the top. Scroll down for recent posts REBT / Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy What the hell is it, anyway??? Click the blue  link below  for Will Ross’s excellent, easy-to-follow explanation . . . Originally posted 2013-03-27 18:01:44.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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American exceptionalism (REBT style)

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 12 Jan 25 in General Semantics, overgeneralization, People Rating, Rating |

On another thread, we have been discussing America being the greatest country in the world, that is so called “American Exceptionalism.” Originally posted 2016-06-17 05:30:58.

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Judge behavior, not self

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 10 Dec 24 in Acceptance, ePrime, Guilt & Shame, judgment, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |

The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some  other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize  judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA)  […]

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