Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they’re alive and human.”
Accept everybody. . .
just because they’re alive and human.
Acceptance is one of those concepts that means different things to different people. It can be nuanced and layered and the meaning can shift depending upon the context.
Imagining someone sitting on his or her tuffet meditating may seem the perfect picture of acceptance. And it is, or it can be. On the other hand, imagining someone combatting his or her irrational beliefs and distorted thinking may seem just the opposite of acceptance. However, as I often point out, acceptance is the soft underbelly of REBT because
After you are done disputing ‘A’ MUST NOT BE ‘A’, what are you left with?
You are left with ‘A’ IS ‘A.’ . . . and that’s acceptance, baby!
Seven more juicy, profound and irreverent Albert Ellis quotes for you:
People got insights into what was bothering them, but they hardly did a damn thing to change.”
How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable…
by Albert Ellis
Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.”
I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn’t love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.”
I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.”
I think it’s unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that’s the human condition.”
As a result of my philosophy, I wasn’t even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off, but I didn’t hate him. I hated what he was doing.”
Masturbation is good and delicious. Musterbation is evil and pernicious!”
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