Will Unconditional Self Acceptance make me lose my edge?
Sean B. in Florida asks Rex. I think I understand the idea of unconditional self acceptance, in theory at least. But I am afraid that adopting it will cause me to lose my edge and stop striving for excellence in my career. If I accept myself unconditionally, then do I have to accept it if […]
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Are you reluctant to accept?
Some people, I think, are uncomfortable with the concept of “acceptance, believing that acceptance equates to passivity, to “resignation,” to not being proactively engaged in problem solving, in working hard to have a full, rich life. 2,990 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2014-04-10 18:13:25.
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Task perfection vs. self-perfection
Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]
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Judge behavior, not self
The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA) […]
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Ten Pounds of Shit in a Five Pound Bag?
Q: The intense Mr. X writes about a pattern of trying to “put 10 pounds of shit into a five pound bag,” that is, making unrealistic plans, and then feeling frustrated, and anxious about not accomplishing what he set out to do. Sound familiar? 1,157 total views Originally posted 2019-01-05 21:41:42.
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What’s wrong with saying, “I am an EXCELLENT person” ???
We have bee having a lively–if somewhat perennial–discussion about why REBT dos not favor motivation and bolstering of “self esteem” by using global labels and “rating,” such as “I am an EXCELLENT person.” 1,408 total views Originally posted 2018-12-26 19:54:03.
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The world sucks, and I can’t stand it!
A reader complains about having difficulty controlling anxiety with regard to society and politics. What great questions! You bring up several related but separate issues. 2,090 total views Originally posted 2012-11-02 04:37:07.
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More internet addiction / Time Management
Guest Author Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist I , myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using . . . 4,619 total views Originally posted 2013-04-17 18:14:17.
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Armageddon
My friend Jimmy from the REBT-CBT Yahoogroup is feeling gloomy about current events, and seeing some of the really nasty things going on in the news as heralding the breakdown of modern society. He is hardly the first to make that observation. Here is what I said . . . 8,517 total views Originally posted 2015-07-30 07:37:31.
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Dealing with Social Anxiety
Shy isn’t a joke! 4,400 total views Originally posted 2013-04-22 21:06:21.
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Quotes That Matter
