“Unconditional” Self Acceptance ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 15 Dec 17 in Acceptance, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA |

What does "unconditional"  in Unconditional Self Acceptance Mean  ??? A reader says that his English teacher advised that he avoid "modifiers" as they weaken the strength of the word they are modifying.  So, rather than "Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA)" he just leaves it at "self acceptance."  Nothing wrong with that, but it does raise some […]

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Oh well!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 10 Dec 17 in Acceptance, Disputing |

Oh well! One of the most useful and powerful REBT-CBT disputation tools! 218 total views, 42 views today

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Stoic Philosophy and REBT

The gods have released you from accountability for your parents, your siblings, your body, your possessions – for death and for life itself. They made you responsible only for what is in your power – the proper use of impressions. So why take on the burden of matters which you cannot answer for? You are […]

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What’s wrong with saying, “I am an EXCELLENT person” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 5 Dec 17 in Acceptance, General Semantics, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |

We have  bee having a lively–if somewhat perennial–discussion about why REBT dos not favor motivation and bolstering of “self esteem” by using global labels and “rating,”  such as “I am an EXCELLENT person.” 3,648 total views, no views today Originally posted 2014-01-06 22:41:50.

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Acceptance is not love!

  Your Opinion Matters "Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human." ~Albert Ellis  This is one of the premises of REBT-CBT that often confuses and pisses off people.  It is closely related to the irrational belief / […]

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Will Unconditional Self Acceptance make me lose my edge?

Sean B. in Florida writes: Rex.  I think I understand the idea of unconditional self acceptance, in theory at least. But I am afraid that adopting it will cause me to lose my edge and stop striving for excellence in my career.  If I accept myself unconditionally, then do I have to accept it if I […]

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 27 Nov 17 in Acceptance, Awfulzing, disqualifying the positive, Rational living |

My friend Jimmy from the REBT-CBT Yahoogroup is feeling gloomy about current events, and seeing some of the really nasty things going on in the news as heralding the breakdown of modern society.  He is hardly the first to make that observation.  Here is what I said. 6,752 total views, no views today Originally posted 2015-07-30 07:37:31.

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“Secondary disturbance” is not secondary in signifance.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 24 Nov 17 in Acceptance, Basics, Depression, Disputing, ULA, UOA, USA |

We have been having some great discussions lately over at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup.  Thm raised an honest and important question and was kind enough to allow me to re-post it here.  Thanks, Thm!  His question and my response follows. Your follow-up comments and questions are encouraged and welcomed. 4,351 total views, no views today Originally […]

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It takes courage to be happy in a sad world!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 23 Nov 17 in Acceptance, Depression, Happiness, Irrationality in the arts & media, suicide, ULA, UOA, USA |

Hi REBT Mates! Happy Thanksgiving! I wrote this yesterday for someone who struggles with depression. The holidays and tragic events in the news are not making it any easier. I am re-posting it here, pretty much unedited. While I reckon no one would ever accuse me of being Pollyanna, this is a message of hope, […]

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Judge behavior, not self

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 22 Nov 17 in Acceptance, Guilt & Shame, judgment, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |

Tue 14 Aug 07, 11:00 p.m. Good Morning All,  I write about this all the time, so if you want something long-winded, there is plenty of my hot air to be found in the archives here.  The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CB–as do some  other modern psychological approaches and schools […]

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