“When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening or (2) unhealthfully negative creating feelings of horror, terror, anxiety, depression, rage, and other disturbed feelings, along with dysfunctional behaviors. And even if they create these dysfunctional feelings and behaviors, they ‘re able because we humans are born constructivists . . .”
~Albert Ellis “Ask Dr. Ellis”
One of the cornerstones of REBT theory and practice the premise that we can emote in healthy-helpful ways or in unhealthy-unhepful way, and that our so called negative emotions can be either healthy or unh4ealthy. Wtih education, training and practice, we can learn to identify healthy and unhealthy emotions, and to a large extent change the unhealthy ones into healthy ones. For example when a disappointing, discouraging loss occures, we can train ourselves to react to it with with healthy, appropirate sadnesss, rather than with negative, self-defeating depression. Not necessarily 100%, 100% of the time, but to a large extent.
Please share your thoughts on what you think Dr.Ellis means by this. In your life, what do you see as the difference between healthy and unhealthy emoting, and how to you handle the latter?
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Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.