Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 7,931 total views […]
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Should you read this?
HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week? 1,311 total views Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.
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Anger Management Workbook
The Anger Management Workbook: Use the S.T.O.P. Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior 1,779 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2018-12-09 03:20:41.
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Tyrany of the Shoulds
In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care” 2,130 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.
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Whine! Whine! Whine!
Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking. Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]
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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???
We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . . 4,770 total views, 2 views today […]
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How to stop being offended by every little thing
The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” 3,382 total views Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.
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Three musts which hold us back
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Prince Ea finally admits to being a chronic musterbator! Are you one too? Click because you want to watch this amazing video and find out . . . 2,595 total views Originally posted 2019-09-20 20:37:27.
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What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?
When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening or (2) unhealthfully negative . . . 4,258 total views Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.
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