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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 29 Nov 17 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 515 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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I NEED love! (not!)

valentine, love, romance, mating, dating, needs, preferences, disguised shoulds, musts

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

“The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing. 138 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  5,438 total views, no views today Originally […]

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 12 Oct 17 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

  HOMEWORK OK, we know that REBT emphasizes various types of demands, including but not limited to, shoulds, oughts and musts, as well as a number of what I refer to as  disguised shoulds typically insincere  “Why?” questions. 280 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why's? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between "task-perfection" and "self-perfection." 3. Can we be motivated without . . . 1,888 total views, no views today […]

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 15 Aug 17 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks.  Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the fonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous "Whine! Whine! Whine!" song about […]

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Masturbation is good and delicious . . .

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 23 Jun 17 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD   Share you thoughts and comments! Please help to keep our blog dynamic and organic.  Comments? Agree? Disagree? How do you interpret this statement? Do you think it affects the way you practice and apply REBT-CBT? Does Dr. Ellis's "salty" language […]

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