How to stop being offended by every little thing

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 23 Jun 18 in Awfulizing, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Low Frustration Tolerance, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, People Rating | ∞

“The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing. 654 total views, 0 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Tags: anger, demands, healthy emotions, manipulation, manufactured outrage, must, offended, offense, oughts, shouds

Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 21 Jun 18 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions | ∞

REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 849 total views, 0 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Tags: demanding, demands, disguised shoulds, must, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should

Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein : Negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 2 Jun 18 in Awfulizing, Demanding, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Guest Author Posts, Low Frustration Tolerance, People Rating | ∞

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 615 total views, 0 views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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I NEED love! (not!)

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 1 Jun 18 in Awfulizing, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, Love and Romance, must, musterbation, Needs vs. Preferences | ∞

valentine, love, romance, mating, dating, needs, preferences, disguised shoulds, musts

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Tags: demands, dire need for love and approval, ellis, Harlow, musts, needs, wants

Is “should” ever necessary?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 13 May 18 in Albert Ellis, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, General Semantics, Needs vs. Preferences, People Rating, Rating, Rational living, Uncategorized | ∞

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 5,806 total views, no views today Originally […]

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Tags: absolutes, demanding, demands, must, musterbation, ought, should

Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 19 Apr 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements | ∞

HOMEWORK OK, we know that REBT emphasizes various types of demands, including but not limited to, shoulds, oughts and musts, as well as a number of what I refer to as disguised shoulds typically insincere “Why?” questions. 830 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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Masturbation is good and delicious . . .

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 10 Apr 18 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters | ∞

Masturbation is good and delicious. Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Share you thoughts and comments! Please help to keep our blog dynamic and organic. Comments? Agree? Disagree? How do you interpret this statement? Do you think it affects the way you practice and apply REBT-CBT? Does Dr. Ellis's "salty" language […]

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Tags: demanding, demands, ellis, masturbation, must, musterbation, musty thinking

Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 19 Dec 17 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos | ∞

Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the fonds of our irrational thinking. Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous "Whine! Whine! Whine!" song about […]

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Tags: Albert Ellis, demanding, demands, humor, limericks., mujsty thinking, musterbation, rational songs, videos

To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 26 Sep 17 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Demanding, General Semantics, Perfectionism, Rating, Rational Thinking, REBT & Other therapies compared, Success & Achievement, Uncategorized | ∞

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why's? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between "task-perfection" and "self-perfection." 3. Can we be motivated without . . . 2,208 total views, 0 views today Originally […]

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Tags: achievement, demanding, demands, must, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, self-perfection, should, success, task-perfection

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