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Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 2 Feb 23 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis    1,999 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 24 Jan 23 in Albert Ellis, Anger, Awfulzing, Books & Media, bookshop, damning, Uncategorized, Videos |

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Don’t take it personally!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 17 Jan 23 in Emotions, Rational living, Rational Thinking |

Everyone is familiar with the expression “Don’t take it personally!” Good advice in my opinion, but what does it mean and how can we actually achieve it?  3,330 total views Originally posted 2016-04-29 21:30:29.

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . .  2,639 total views Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   7,868 total views […]

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Should you read this?

HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week?     1,248 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.

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Anger Management Workbook

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 6 Dec 22 in Books & Media, bookshop |

The Anger Management Workbook: Use the  S.T.O.P.  Method to Replace Destructive Responses with Constructive Behavior    1,700 total views Originally posted 2018-12-09 03:20:41.

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 5 Dec 22 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”    2,060 total views Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 1 Dec 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 16 Nov 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    4,696 total views,  1 views today […]

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