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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 18 Aug 19 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . . 1,665 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” 1,638 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.” Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,422 total views, 1 views today Originally […]

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 3 Aug 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

  HOMEWORK OK, we know that REBT emphasizes various types of demands, including but not limited to, shoulds, oughts and musts, as well as a number of what I refer to as  disguised shoulds typically insincere  “Why?” questions. 1,898 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 23 Jul 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   2,947 total views, 4 views today […]

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What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 10 Jul 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Emotions |

  When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening  or (2) unhealthfully negative . . .    1,005 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 28 Jun 19 in Albert Ellis, Anger, Awfulzing, Books & Media, bookshop, damning, Uncategorized, Videos |

390 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2019-03-14 20:12:41.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 23 Jun 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 1,261 total views, no views today Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Don’t take it personally!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 15 Jun 19 in Emotions, Rational living, Rational Thinking |

Everyone is familiar with the expression “Don’t take it personally!” Good advice in my opinion, but what does it mean and how can we actually achieve it? 1,525 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2016-04-29 21:30:29.

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 6 Jun 19 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”   1,200 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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