Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!
HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]
933 total views, 2 views today
Don’t take it personally!
Everyone is familiar with the expression “Don’t take it personally!” Good advice in my opinion, but what does it mean and how can we actually achieve it? 2,167 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-04-29 21:30:29.
2,167 total views, 1 views today
What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?
When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening or (2) unhealthfully negative . . . 1,834 total views, 4 views today Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.
1,834 total views, 4 views today
What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 1,661 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.
1,661 total views
Disguised shoulds?
Greta Van Susteren, former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance. I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,777 total views Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.
3,777 total views
Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein
REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,804 total views Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.
1,804 total views
Quotes That Matter
