What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 2,689 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.
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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!
HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]
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Don’t take it personally!
Everyone is familiar with the expression “Don’t take it personally!” Good advice in my opinion, but what does it mean and how can we actually achieve it? 3,366 total views Originally posted 2016-04-29 21:30:29.
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TRIGGER WARNING!
TRIGGER WARNING! Sorry to be the one to tell you; people, places and things “out there” do not trigger you. You trigger yourself by your distorted interpretations of the trigger. Of course, to understand that, you first need to understand something about REBT-CBT. 2,811 total views Originally posted 2017-10-28 17:04:18.
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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein
REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 2,659 total views Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.
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Disguised shoulds?
Greta Van Susteren, former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance. I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 4,906 total views Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.
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What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?
When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening or (2) unhealthfully negative . . . 4,156 total views Originally posted 2013-07-16 21:52:38.
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Is “indifference” a better option than “strong preference”?
Is “indifference” a valid alternative to having a “strong preference”? We have been having a lively one over that 5,074 total views Originally posted 2013-07-17 19:12:21.
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Quotes That Matter
