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How to deal with a hen-pecking boss

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 7 Dec 17 in Awfulzing, Basics, Books & Media, Demanding, job burn out, What is REBT - CBT? |

  Boss Mr. Dithers bullies employee Dagwood”Blondie” comic strip King Features Syndicate Does the usual advice for improved communications skills and more assertiveness help us to deal with a boss who bullies? 1,431 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-03-11 21:21:31.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 6 Dec 17 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average! 794 total views, 4 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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I NEED love! (not!)

valentine, love, romance, mating, dating, needs, preferences, disguised shoulds, musts

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How do we manage “job burnout”?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 21 Nov 17 in Demanding, Demanding, Depression, job burn out, Low Frustration Tolerance, Perfectionism |

A reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .  4,544 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 20 Nov 17 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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What is the difference between healthy & unhealthy emoting?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 13 Nov 17 in Demanding, Emotions |

“When adversities happen to people, they can choose to make themselves either (1) healthfully negative, sorry and regretful and annoyed and frustrated and disappointed about the happening  or (2) unhealthfully negative  creating feelings of horror, terror, anxiety, depression, rage, and other disturbed feelings, along with dysfunctional behaviors. And even if they create these dysfunctional feelings and behaviors, […]

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 13 Nov 17 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

Hi REBT-mates! Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 66 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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Is “indifference” a better option than “strong preference”?

Is “indifference”  a valid alternative to having a “strong preference”?  We have been having a lively one over that. 2,955 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-07-17 19:12:21.

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It’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to . . .

  Lesley Gore It’s My Party (1965) REBT Mates! We have been having an lively discussion about  and adult  who behaves with emotional immaturity such as avoiding attending a party for fear of seeing a rival there as a teenager might. 1,981 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-08-15 02:19:55.

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I need you too much already, lah! :o{

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 21 Oct 17 in Demanding, Dire need for love & approval, Needs vs. Preferences, Uncategorized |

I need you too much already, lah!     Well, that is they way we might say it in Thailand or other Southeast Asian countries.  But in spite of the charming local syntax, I reckon that the irrational belief that drives this sentiment is very nearly universal.  Taken to the the extreme, and combined in a cocktail of […]

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