
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis 780 total views Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.
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Whine! Whine! Whine!
Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking. Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]
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Should you read this?
HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week? 743 total views Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.
743 total views

To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???
We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . . 3,832 total views, 1 views today […]
3,832 total views, 1 views today

MUST I have what I want?
Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 1,425 total views Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.
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A loyal reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . . 7,327 total views Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.
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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!
Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives. Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]
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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.
Dare to be average! 2,497 total views Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.
2,497 total views

Baby I Need Your Lovin’ . . . Really?
Baby I Need Your Lovin’| Baby, I need your lovin’ I got to have all your lovin’ Baby, I need your lovin’ Got to have all your lovin’ ~The Four Tops, 1964 Awwwwww! Ain’t that romantic? Don’t that just make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside? Ain’t it the truth? […]
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