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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 21 Sep 22 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?  1,928 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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Baby I Need Your Lovin’ . . . Really?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 20 Sep 22 in Awfulzing, Demanding, Love and Romance, Needs vs. Preferences, should statements |

Baby I Need Your Lovin’| Baby, I need your lovin’ I got to have all your lovin’ Baby, I need your lovin’ Got to have all your lovin’ ~The Four Tops, 1964      Awwwwww!  Ain’t that romantic?  Don’t that just make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside?     Ain’t it the truth? […]

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 17 Sep 22 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average!  3,188 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 20 Aug 22 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis    1,780 total views Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 14 Aug 22 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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How to deal with a hen-pecking boss

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 28 Jul 22 in Awfulzing, Basics, Books & Media, Demanding, job burn out, What is REBT - CBT? |

Boss Mr. Dithers bullies employee Dagwood”Blondie” comic strip King Features Syndicate, 1930s Does the usual advice for improved communications skills and more assertiveness help us to deal with a boss who bullies?    5,309 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2016-03-11 21:21:31.

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 24 Jul 22 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . .  2,532 total views Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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I need you too much already, lah! :o{

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 8 Jul 22 in Demanding, Dire need for love & approval, Needs vs. Preferences, Uncategorized |

 I need you too much already, lah!  Four Tops – “Baby I Need Your Loving” (1966)  5,358 total views Originally posted 2013-08-01 18:17:04.

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