Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist
I, myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using the Alan Lakein’s, time management expert’s and author’s of “How to manage you time and your life”, question: “Is this the best use of my time?”
Is asking for support from others the best use of my time? Do I really need it? And do I really want it? Am I a facebook type of junkie who is addicted to telling the world what I am doing? If I want approval from others is this the best, most efficient, way to go?
Then I watch for the apocalyptic four horsemen of REBT: Demands, Awfulizing, Intolerance of Discomfort and Frustration, Rating and Downing Games (DAIR) or rearranged in another way ARID:
In change of habits what bites me is the Intolerance of Discomfort and Frustration. So I challenge that: What is so awful about undergoing the discomfort of change? Do I have a demand that change should evoke less discomfort than it does? And if I slip do I have to rate myself or down myself as a weakling? Why can’t I after the slip lean on my USA (Unconditional Self-Acceptance) led by the ubiquitous chant: USA, USA, USA….
Remember as s true stoic, you asked for bread and was handed a stone. But you, as a stoic, can accept that you got no fricken support but a bushel full of unwanted fricken advice! Such is life, eh?:-)
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Originally posted 2013-04-17 18:14:17.
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