Gunars Neiders

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Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist
I , myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using . . .

I, myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using the Alan Lakein’s, time management expert’s and  author’s of “How to manage you time and your life”, question: “Is this the best use of my time?”

For example:

Is asking for support from others the best use of my time? Do I really need it? And do I really want it? Am I a facebook type of junkie who is addicted to telling the world what I am doing? If I want approval from others is this the best, most efficient, way to go?



Then I watch for the  apocalyptic four horsemen of REBT: Demands, Awfulizing, Intolerance of Discomfort and Frustration, Rating and Downing Games (DAIR) or rearranged in another way ARID:

In change of habits what bites me is the Intolerance of Discomfort and Frustration. So I challenge that: What is so awful about undergoing the discomfort of change? Do I have a demand that change should evoke less discomfort than it does? And if I slip do I have to rate myself or down myself as a weakling? Why can’t I after the slip lean on my USA (Unconditional Self-Acceptance) led by the ubiquitous chant: USA, USA, USA….

Remember as s true stoic, you asked for bread and was handed a stone. But you, as a stoic, can accept that you got no fricken support but a bushel full of unwanted fricken advice! Such is life, eh?:-)



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Originally posted 2013-04-17 18:14:17.

Gunars Neiders

Gunars Neiders

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Dr. Gunars Neiders, Psy.D is a licensed psychologist In Washington State who combines cutting edge therapy with the latest in interpersonal coaching to help people all around the world with their speech habits. He provides coaching online to people who want help with stuttering, utilizing multidisciplinary approaches based on REBT-CBT.
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