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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   7,593 total views, […]

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Can Suicide ever be a rational act?

In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having thoughts about harming yourself that are scaring you, pick […]

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Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 16 Mar 22 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, judgment, People Rating, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, USA |

Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being?  . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . .  2,369 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.

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Internet addiction?

A reader shares that on occasion they find a new and interesting venue on the internet and end up using it compulsively, wasting a lot of time, and then feeling disgusted with themselves. They believe that if they make a decision to get involved with an internet venue, they can just make a decision to […]

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Ten Cognitive Distortions

Here an expanded discussion of the Ten Cognitive Distortions as conceptualized by David Burns and the Big Four, four irrational beliefs (IB’s) that drive emotional as conceptualized by Dr. Albert Ellis.  1,495 total views Originally posted 2019-08-24 18:57:56.

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How to deal with your past errors?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 17 Dec 21 in Albert Ellis, damning, downing, Ellis Quotes, People Rating, Rating, Shame, USA |

By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future.” ~Albert Ellis    2,636 total views Originally posted 2017-06-17 06:21:04.

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More internet addiction / Time Management

Guest Author Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist I , myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using . . .  4,885 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2013-04-17 18:14:17.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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American exceptionalism (REBT style)

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 22 Nov 21 in General Semantics, overgeneralization, People Rating, Rating |

On another thread, we have been discussing America being the greatest country in the world, that is so called “American Exceptionalism.”  2,257 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2016-06-17 05:30:58.

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Self-help forms.

Willie T. has been making some interesting comments about whether REBT is “talk therapy” or something else. He shares some additional information which hits on a sore spot of mine–mechanically filling out forms–and is worth exploring in greater depth.  Here’s Willie.  We’ve taken the liberty of running the SpellCheck for him.  Hehehe . . . […]

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