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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   6,746 total views, […]

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 4 May 20 in Awfulizing, Humor |

  Contributed by Jonathan Von Breton. Thanks for the chuckle, Jonathan!  642 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2019-07-02 22:31:06.

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Please don’t catastrophize over politics!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 29 Apr 20 in Anxiety, Awfulizing, Awfulzing |

It’s not as bad as you think!  . . .  Or is it ???  683 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2018-11-15 19:37:25.

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Self-help forms.

Willie T. has been making some interesting comments about whether REBT is “talk therapy” or something else. He shares some additional information which hits on a sore spot of mine–mechanically filling out forms–and is worth exploring in greater depth.  Here’s Willie.  We’ve taken the liberty of running the SpellCheck for him.  Hehehe . . . […]

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 12 Apr 20 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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Pissed beyond all measure!!!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 23 Mar 20 in Anger, Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Uncategorized |

Have you ever been “pissed beyond all measure”? Are you ready for your morning REBT safari?  3,378 total views Originally posted 2014-10-17 18:57:05.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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Ten Cognitive Distortions

Here an expanded discussion of the Ten Cognitive Distortions as conceptualized by David Burns and the Big Four, four irrational beliefs (IB’s) that drive emotional as conceptualized by Dr. Albert Ellis.  489 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2019-08-24 18:57:56.

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  3,772 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 […]

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.”  2,136 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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