Is “should” ever necessary?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 27 Nov 24 in Albert Ellis, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, General Semantics, Needs vs. Preferences, People Rating, Rating, Rational living, Uncategorized | ∞

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 Originally posted […]

Tags: absolutes, demanding, demands, must, musterbation, ought, should

More internet addiction / Time Management

Posted by Gunars Neiders on Thu 21 Nov 24 in Acceptance, Awfulizing, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Guest Author Posts, Low Frustration Tolerance, Low Frustration Tolerance, People Rating, Time management, ULA, UOA | ∞

Guest Author Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist I , myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using . . . Originally posted 2013-04-17 18:14:17.

Tags: guest author, Gunars, Gunars Nelder, rebt, Ross, stuttering, Will Ross

Pissed beyond all measure!!!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 20 Nov 24 in Anger, Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Uncategorized | ∞

Have you ever been “pissed beyond all measure”? Are you ready for your morning REBT safari? Originally posted 2014-10-17 18:57:05.

Tags: anger, anger management, cognitive distortions

Self-help forms.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 5 Nov 24 in Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Low Frustration Tolerance, People Rating, Self-help forms, Ten Cognitive Distortions | ∞

Willie T. has been making some interesting comments about whether REBT is “talk therapy” or something else. He shares some additional information which hits on a sore spot of mine–mechanically filling out forms–and is worth exploring in greater depth. Here’s Willie. We’ve taken the liberty of running the SpellCheck for him. Hehehe . . . […]

Tags: self-help, self-help forms

How to stop being offended by every little thing

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 27 Oct 24 in Awfulizing, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Low Frustration Tolerance, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, People Rating | ∞

The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

Tags: anger, demands, healthy emotions, manipulation, manufactured outrage, must, offended, offense, oughts, shouds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 21 Oct 24 in Awfulizing, Humor | ∞

Contributed by Jonathan Von Breton. Thanks for the chuckle, Jonathan! Originally posted 2019-07-02 22:31:06.

Tags: awfulizing, catastrophizing, end of the world, humor

Please don’t catastrophize over politics!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 17 Oct 24 in Anxiety, Awfulizing, Awfulzing | ∞

It’s not as bad as you think! . . . Or is it ??? Originally posted 2018-11-15 19:37:25.

Tags: catastrophizing, hypnosis, rational hypnosis

Can Suicide ever be a rational act?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 19 Sep 24 in Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Demanding, Demanding, Depression, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Low Frustration Tolerance, morality, musterbation, musty thinking, People Rating, suicide, USA | ∞

In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having thoughts about harming yourself that are scaring you, pick […]

Tags: harm reduction, self-harm, suicide, suicide prevention

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 8 Aug 24 in Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Emotions, Rational living, What is REBT - CBT? | ∞

Is Anything Truly Awful? Originally posted 2014-10-16 07:25:31.

Tags: awfulizing, catastrophizing, exaggerating, exaggeration, the sky is falling

Ten Cognitive Distortions

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 25 Jun 24 in Aaron Beck, Albert Ellis, Awfulizing, Cognitve (Behavior) Therapy, David Burns, Demanding, Ellis Four Irational Processes, Low Frustration Tolerance, People Rating, Ten Cognitive Distortions | ∞

Here an expanded discussion of the Ten Cognitive Distortions as conceptualized by David Burns and the Big Four, four irrational beliefs (IB’s) that drive emotional as conceptualized by Dr. Albert Ellis. Originally posted 2019-08-24 18:57:56.

Tags: beck, Burns, ellis, For Irrational Beliefs, Ten Cognitive Distortions

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