Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  4,150 total views Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.

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Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 17 Feb 21 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, judgment, People Rating, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, USA |

Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being?  . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . .  1,865 total views Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.

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12 Lies We Tell Ourselves

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 11 Feb 21 in Ellis Four Irational Processes, ethics, Ten Cognitive Distortions, Uncategorized |

12 lies we tell ourselves by Albert Ellis 1. I must have the love and approval of others i must avoid disapproval at all costs. Click to see the other 11 . . .     1,223 total views Originally posted 2019-08-24 18:16:34.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 1 Feb 21 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

 3,775 total views Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 31 Jan 21 in Albert Ellis, Anger, Books & Media, bookshop, Demanding, Low Frustration Tolerance |

God knows, we all need this one these days!    777 total views Originally posted 2018-12-10 12:00:48.

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 24 Jan 21 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?  1,422 total views Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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A loyal reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .   7,325 total views Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 30 Dec 20 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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Pissed beyond all measure!!!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 26 Dec 20 in Anger, Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Uncategorized |

Have you ever been “pissed beyond all measure”? Are you ready for your morning REBT safari?  3,773 total views Originally posted 2014-10-17 18:57:05.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 24 Dec 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.”    1,921 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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