Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  Originally posted […]

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More internet addiction / Time Management

Guest Author Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist I , myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using . . . Originally posted 2013-04-17 18:14:17.

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Pissed beyond all measure!!!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 12 Apr 26 in Anger, Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Uncategorized |

Have you ever been “pissed beyond all measure”? Are you ready for your morning REBT safari? Originally posted 2014-10-17 18:57:05.

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 10 Apr 26 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”   Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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Self-help forms.

Willie T. has been making some interesting comments about whether REBT is “talk therapy” or something else. He shares some additional information which hits on a sore spot of mine–mechanically filling out forms–and is worth exploring in greater depth.  Here’s Willie.  We’ve taken the liberty of running the SpellCheck for him.  Hehehe . . . […]

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 13 Mar 26 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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A loyal reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .  Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.

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Can Suicide ever be a rational act?

In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having thoughts about harming yourself that are scaring you, pick […]

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 23 Jan 26 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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