How do we manage “job burnout”?
A reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .
Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein : Negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking
REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . .
Can Suicide ever be a rational act?
Sat 9 Aug 2014, 6:49 pm Good Morning All, In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having […]
Disguised shoulds?
Greta Van Susteren,Fox News Analyst We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (“shoulds,” et al) is at the root of disturbance. Â I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”
What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds,”
MUST I have what I want?
Hi REBT-mates! Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?
Internet addiction?
A reader shares that on occasion they find a new and interesting venue on the internet and end up using it compulsively, wasting a lot of time, and then feeling disgusted with themselves. They believe that if they make a decision to get involved with an internet venue, they can just make a decision to […]
More internet addiction / Time Management
Guest Author Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist I , myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using . . .
It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!
Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives. Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]
Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉