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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 13 Oct 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.”    1,827 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 12 Oct 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

 3,335 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  4,012 total views Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.

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Can Suicide ever be a rational act?

In light of recent events in the news and some of the lovely stuff that Jimmy and Steve posted here recently, I thought it might be appropriate to talk a little about suicide. First of all, if you are thinking about killing yourself or are having thoughts about harming yourself that are scaring you, pick […]

 3,815 total views,  1 views today

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   6,964 total views, […]

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It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 9 Sep 20 in Anger, Awfulizing, Awfulzing, Basics, Demanding, Demanding, Emotions, Low Frustration Tolerance, must |

Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for  using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives.  Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 5 Sep 20 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?  1,276 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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Pissed beyond all measure!!!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 1 Sep 20 in Anger, Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Uncategorized |

Have you ever been “pissed beyond all measure”? Are you ready for your morning REBT safari?  3,546 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2014-10-17 18:57:05.

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . .  1,971 total views Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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Internet addiction?

A reader shares that on occasion they find a new and interesting venue on the internet and end up using it compulsively, wasting a lot of time, and then feeling disgusted with themselves. They believe that if they make a decision to get involved with an internet venue, they can just make a decision to […]

 1,687 total views,  1 views today

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