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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 31 May 20 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 29 May 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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Video : Albert Ellis’ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)- Daniel Man of Reason

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 23 May 20 in Basics, Books & Media, Demanding, musty thinking |

I would like to share an excellent video by Daniel Phillip.  Dan’s short presentation impressed me because it  offers a clear and “user-friendly” introduction to REBT, and provides some insight into REBT’s emphasis on “musty” thinking and “awfulizing.” I would like to see many more voices explaining and expanding on REBT-CBT.   1,716 total views,  1 views today Originally […]

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 22 May 20 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  2,183 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?

How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school?  4,288 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 20 Feb 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    3,457 total views,  1 views today […]

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 31 Dec 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.”    1,662 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 30 Dec 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

 2,803 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

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The Meaning of Life

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 17 Dec 19 in Depression, General Semantics, Happiness, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion |

Perhaps there are such people as “pure philosophers” who placidly think about the “meaning of life” as a kind of “recreation,” and are not motivated to do so by existential angst.    5,078 total views Originally posted 2015-03-11 05:39:27.

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 28 Nov 19 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?  1,133 total views Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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