Disguised “Should” statments
REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Click to find out why . . . 3,539 total views Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.
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MUST I have what I want?
Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 1,926 total views Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.
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The Meaning of Life
Perhaps there are such people as “pure philosophers” who placidly think about the “meaning of life” as a kind of “recreation,” and are not motivated to do so by existential angst. 6,678 total views Originally posted 2015-03-11 05:39:27.
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What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 2,539 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.
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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!
HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]
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Disguised shoulds?
Greta Van Susteren, former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance. I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 4,728 total views Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.
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Video : Albert Ellis’ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)- Daniel Man of Reason
I would like to share an excellent video by Daniel Phillip. Dan’s short presentation impressed me because it offers a clear and “user-friendly” introduction to REBT, and provides some insight into REBT’s emphasis on “musty” thinking and “awfulizing.” I would like to see many more voices explaining and expanding on REBT-CBT. 2,465 total views Originally posted 2014-04-14 […]
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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?
How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school? 5,128 total views Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.
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Should you read this?
HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week? 1,137 total views Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.
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Tyrany of the Shoulds
In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care” 1,968 total views Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.
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