What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 1,151 total views, 5 views today Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.
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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!
HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]
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Disguised “Should” statments
REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 1,525 total views, 5 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.
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Tyrany of the Shoulds
In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care” 1,141 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.
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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?
How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school? 3,913 total views, no views today Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.
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How to stop being offended by every little thing
The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” 1,482 total views, 7 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.
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The Meaning of Life
Perhaps there are such people as “pure philosophers” who placidly think about the “meaning of life” as a kind of “recreation,” and are not motivated to do so by existential angst. 4,183 total views, 8 views today Originally posted 2015-03-11 05:39:27.
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Whine! Whine! Whine!
Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking. Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]
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Disguised shoulds?
Greta Van Susteren, former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance. I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,474 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 […]
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Video : Albert Ellis’ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)- Daniel Man of Reason
I would like to share an excellent video by Daniel Phillip. Dan’s short presentation impressed me because it offers a clear and “user-friendly” introduction to REBT, and provides some insight into REBT’s emphasis on “musty” thinking and “awfulizing.” I would like to see many more voices explaining and expanding on REBT-CBT. 1,068 total views, 1 views today Originally […]
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Quotes That Matter
