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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 15 Jul 20 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  2,292 total views Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 13 Jul 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 2 Jul 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    3,578 total views,  2 views today […]

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.”  2,278 total views Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  3,921 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 […]

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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 31 May 20 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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Video : Albert Ellis’ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT)- Daniel Man of Reason

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 23 May 20 in Basics, Books & Media, Demanding, musty thinking |

I would like to share an excellent video by Daniel Phillip.  Dan’s short presentation impressed me because it  offers a clear and “user-friendly” introduction to REBT, and provides some insight into REBT’s emphasis on “musty” thinking and “awfulizing.” I would like to see many more voices explaining and expanding on REBT-CBT.   1,790 total views Originally posted 2014-04-14 […]

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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?

How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school?  4,332 total views Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 31 Dec 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.”    1,721 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Three musts which hold us back

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 30 Dec 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, should statements |

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