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Not fair!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 18 Oct 20 in Basics, Culture, Entitlement, Low Frustration Tolerance |

 849 total views Originally posted 2018-12-14 21:39:16.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 13 Oct 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.”    1,825 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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I cried because I had no shoes…

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 12 Oct 20 in Awfulzing, Emotions, Guilt & Shame |

I cried because I had no shoes . .  3,311 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2017-03-25 07:16:16.

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  4,009 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 […]

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   6,954 total views […]

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . .  1,970 total views Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 15 Jul 20 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  2,356 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 13 Jul 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 2 Jul 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    3,649 total views Originally posted […]

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How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 15 Jun 20 in Albert Ellis, Anger, Books & Media, bookshop, Demanding, Low Frustration Tolerance |

God knows, we all need this one these days!    701 total views Originally posted 2018-12-10 12:00:48.

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