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I cried because I had no shoes…

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 15 Sep 21 in Awfulzing, Emotions, Guilt & Shame |

I cried because I had no shoes . .  4,007 total views Originally posted 2017-03-25 07:16:16.

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 13 Sep 21 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  2,997 total views Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 2 Sep 21 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 31 Aug 21 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    4,181 total views Originally posted […]

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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 23 Aug 21 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  4,438 total views Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 26 Jul 21 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average!  2,787 total views Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 29 Jun 21 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis    1,091 total views Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.

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Not fair!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 14 Jun 21 in Basics, Culture, Entitlement, Low Frustration Tolerance |

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TRIGGER WARNING!

TRIGGER WARNING! Sorry to be the one to tell you; people, places and things “out there” do not trigger you. You trigger yourself by your distorted interpretations of the trigger. Of course, to understand that, you first need to understand something about REBT-CBT.  2,297 total views Originally posted 2017-10-28 17:04:18.

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