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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 6 Oct 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   3,097 total views, 3 views today […]

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 2 Oct 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 1,331 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 16 Sep 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 10 Sep 19 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis   147 total views, 4 views today

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Guest Author, Dr. Edelstein

REBT (according to Ellis) posits that inappropriate negative emotions come from one type of irrational thinking . . . 1,613 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-12-27 06:34:31.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 30 Aug 19 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average! 1,933 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 18 Aug 19 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . . 1,745 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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To Whine or Not To Whine

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 11 Aug 19 in Humor, Irrationality in the arts & media, Rational Songs & Limericks |

Jimmy Walter, one of the regular contributors at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup was generous enough to allow us to use his wonderful spoof on Hamlet’s timeless soliloquy.   Special treat, at the end, see video of Dr. Ellis’s singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song…   1,318 total views, no views today Originally posted 2013-01-23 08:05:17.

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Not fair!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 8 Aug 19 in Basics, Culture, Entitlement, Low Frustration Tolerance |

333 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2018-12-14 21:39:16.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.” Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,514 total views, 2 views today Originally […]

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