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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 31 May 20 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 29 May 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 26 May 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . .  3,030 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 22 May 20 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  2,183 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   6,751 total views […]

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To Whine or Not To Whine

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 1 Apr 20 in Humor, Irrationality in the arts & media, Rational Songs & Limericks |

Jimmy Walter, one of the regular contributors at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup was generous enough to allow us to use his wonderful spoof on Hamlet’s timeless soliloquy.   Special treat, at the end, see video of Dr. Ellis’s singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song…    1,524 total views Originally posted 2013-01-23 08:05:17.

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I cried because I had no shoes…

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 28 Mar 20 in Awfulzing, Emotions, Guilt & Shame |

I cried because I had no shoes . .  3,062 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2017-03-25 07:16:16.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 20 Feb 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    3,457 total views,  1 views today […]

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 29 Jan 20 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average!  2,262 total views Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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