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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 18 Aug 19 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . . 1,665 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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To Whine or Not To Whine

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 11 Aug 19 in Humor, Irrationality in the arts & media, Rational Songs & Limericks |

Jimmy Walter, one of the regular contributors at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup was generous enough to allow us to use his wonderful spoof on Hamlet’s timeless soliloquy.   Special treat, at the end, see video of Dr. Ellis’s singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song…   1,260 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-01-23 08:05:17.

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Not fair!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 8 Aug 19 in Basics, Culture, Entitlement, Low Frustration Tolerance |

286 total views, 4 views today Originally posted 2018-12-14 21:39:16.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.” Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,422 total views, 1 views today Originally […]

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 23 Jul 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   2,947 total views, 4 views today […]

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TRIGGER WARNING!

TRIGGER WARNING! Sorry to be the one to tell you; people, places and things “out there” do not trigger you. You trigger yourself by your distorted interpretations of the trigger. Of course, to understand that, you first need to understand something about REBT-CBT. 1,149 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2017-10-28 17:04:18.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 23 Jun 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 1,261 total views, no views today Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 16 Jun 19 in Demanding, Demanding, Homework, must, musty thinking, Should |

HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 10 May 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . . 2,169 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.

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