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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   7,594 total views, […]

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 6 Apr 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 28 Mar 22 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  3,390 total views Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 13 Mar 22 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average!  3,028 total views Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 22 Feb 22 in Albert Ellis, Anger, Books & Media, bookshop, Demanding, Low Frustration Tolerance |

God knows, we all need this one these days!    1,200 total views Originally posted 2018-12-10 12:00:48.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 9 Feb 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.”    2,414 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Not fair!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 19 Jan 22 in Basics, Culture, Entitlement, Low Frustration Tolerance |

 1,463 total views Originally posted 2018-12-14 21:39:16.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 25 Dec 21 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . .  4,905 total views Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 12 Dec 21 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis    1,471 total views Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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