Task perfection vs. self-perfection.
Dare to be average! Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.
How to Keep People From Pushing Your Buttons!
God knows, we all need this one these days! Originally posted 2018-12-10 12:00:48.
What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.
Not fair!
Originally posted 2018-12-14 21:39:16.
Masturbation is good and delicious. Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . . Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.
Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?
In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions. You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure. If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!! Explosion […]
I cried because I had no shoes…
I cried because I had no shoes . . Originally posted 2017-03-25 07:16:16.
Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!
HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]
TRIGGER WARNING!
TRIGGER WARNING! Sorry to be the one to tell you; people, places and things “out there” do not trigger you. You trigger yourself by your distorted interpretations of the trigger. Of course, to understand that, you first need to understand something about REBT-CBT. Originally posted 2017-10-28 17:04:18.