0

Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 4 Apr 21 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  2,749 total views,  6 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

 2,749 total views,  6 views today

Tags: , , , , , , ,

0

Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 24 Mar 21 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average!  2,627 total views,  4 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

 2,627 total views,  4 views today

Tags: , , , , , ,

0

To Whine or Not To Whine

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 18 Mar 21 in Humor, Irrationality in the arts & media, Rational Songs & Limericks |

Jimmy Walter, one of the regular contributors at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup was generous enough to allow us to use his wonderful spoof on Hamlet’s timeless soliloquy.   Special treat, at the end, see video of Dr. Ellis’s singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song…    1,748 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2013-01-23 08:05:17.

 1,748 total views,  3 views today

Tags: , , , , ,

0

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 4 Mar 21 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis    854 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.

 854 total views,  2 views today

Tags: , , , , , ,

0

Not fair!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 4 Mar 21 in Basics, Culture, Entitlement, Low Frustration Tolerance |

 977 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2018-12-14 21:39:16.

 977 total views,  3 views today

Tags: , , , , , ,

5

Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  4,185 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 […]

 4,185 total views,  1 views today

Tags: , , , ,

0

I cried because I had no shoes…

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 21 Feb 21 in Awfulzing, Emotions, Guilt & Shame |

I cried because I had no shoes . .  3,640 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2017-03-25 07:16:16.

 3,640 total views,  3 views today

Tags: , , , , , , ,

0

TRIGGER WARNING!

TRIGGER WARNING! Sorry to be the one to tell you; people, places and things “out there” do not trigger you. You trigger yourself by your distorted interpretations of the trigger. Of course, to understand that, you first need to understand something about REBT-CBT.  2,025 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2017-10-28 17:04:18.

 2,025 total views,  1 views today

Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,

0

Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 12 Feb 21 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

 3,403 total views,  2 views today

Tags: , , , , , , , ,

0

To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 8 Feb 21 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    3,900 total views,  3 views today […]

 3,900 total views,  3 views today

Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,

Copyright © 2018-2021 All rights reserved.
This site is using the Desk Mess Mirrored Child Child-Theme, v2.2.4.1.1500210207, on top of
the Parent-Theme Desk Mess Mirrored, v2.5, from BuyNowShop.com

Never miss a post!

Don't let this happen you you!
Get FREE weekly Newsletter Digest of New Posts

We respect your privacy.