What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” 1,042 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.
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Disguised “Should” statments
REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Dishonest “why” questions are one of the most obvious examples. Dishonest “whys” pretend to ask for an explanation when in fact they are really making a “should” statement. 1,345 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.
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How to stop being offended by every little thing
The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” 1,293 total views, no views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.
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The Meaning of Life
Perhaps there are such people as “pure philosophers” who placidly think about the “meaning of life” as a kind of “recreation,” and are not motivated to do so by existential angst. 4,042 total views, no views today Originally posted 2015-03-11 05:39:27.
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Whine! Whine! Whine!
Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking. Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song about […]
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Disguised shoulds?
Greta Van Susteren, former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance. I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.” 3,371 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2014-10-01 […]
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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?
How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school? 3,810 total views, no views today Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.
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Guest Author, Michael R. Edelstein : Beat Your Smoking Addiction
Beat Your Smoking Addiction By Dr. Michael R. Edelstein, Author “Three Minute Therapy” Three Minute Refutations (TMR) involve a powerful exercise for changing your addictive thinking. 5,513 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-07-31 00:00:19.
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Three musts which hold us back
HOMEWORK OK, we know that REBT emphasizes various types of demands, including but not limited to, shoulds, oughts and musts, as well as a number of what I refer to as disguised shoulds typically insincere “Why?” questions. 1,584 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.
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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???
We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . . 2,682 total views, no views […]
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