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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 26 Sep 22 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  3,539 total views Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 21 Sep 22 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?  1,927 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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The Meaning of Life

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 18 Sep 22 in Depression, General Semantics, Happiness, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion |

Perhaps there are such people as “pure philosophers” who placidly think about the “meaning of life” as a kind of “recreation,” and are not motivated to do so by existential angst.    6,678 total views Originally posted 2015-03-11 05:39:27.

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What, more “darling shoulds?”

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 4 Sep 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Religion, should statements |

  It’s true!  I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.”    2,539 total views Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

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Disguised shoulds?

Greta Van Susteren,  former Fox News Analyst Are Greta’s “disguised shoulds” showing? We have been talking about the model of REBT where demanding (shoulds, oughts, musts, etc.) are at the root of disturbance.  I thought it might be a good occasion to reprise my concept of “disguised shoulds.”  4,728 total views Originally posted 2014-10-01 06:33:55.

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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?

How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school?  5,128 total views Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.

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Should you read this?

HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week?     1,137 total views Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 23 Jun 22 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”    1,968 total views Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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Whine! Whine! Whine!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 19 Jun 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Rational Songs & Limericks, Videos |

   Dr. Ellis loved making fun of his and our distorted thinking and irrational behavior with humorous rational songs, and  limericks. Humor is, of course, fun, but also very powerful in helping us break the bonds of our irrational thinking.  Here is a special video by Dr. Ellis singing his famous “Whine! Whine! Whine!” song […]

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 3 Jun 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    4,562 total views Originally posted […]

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