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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 16 Nov 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    4,635 total views,  2 views today […]

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 26 Sep 22 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  3,615 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 21 Sep 22 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?  1,986 total views Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 22 Aug 22 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . .  5,407 total views,  6 views today Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 20 Aug 22 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis    1,897 total views,  4 views today Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.

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I need you too much already, lah! :o{

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 8 Jul 22 in Demanding, Dire need for love & approval, Needs vs. Preferences, Uncategorized |

 I need you too much already, lah!  Four Tops – “Baby I Need Your Loving” (1966)  5,433 total views Originally posted 2013-08-01 18:17:04.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   7,815 total views […]

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Should you read this?

HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week?     1,191 total views Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 23 Jun 22 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”    2,015 total views Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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