Disguised “Should” statments
REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Click to find out why . . . 1,807 total views, 30 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.
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Should you read this?
HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week? 392 total views, 3 views today Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.
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Masturbation is good and delicious. Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . . 2,480 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.
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MUST I have what I want?
Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 851 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.
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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???
We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . . 3,138 total views, no views […]
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People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis 181 total views, no views today
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Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 6,535 total views, no views today […]
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I need you too much already, lah! :o{
I need you too much already, lah! Well, that is they way we might say it in Thailand or other Southeast Asian countries. But in spite of the charming local syntax, I reckon that the irrational belief that drives this sentiment is very nearly universal. Taken to the the extreme, and combined in a cocktail of other […]
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Tyrany of the Shoulds
In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care” 1,281 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.
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Quotes That Matter
