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Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 6 Nov 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . . 2,464 total views, 4 views today Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 15 Oct 19 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? 844 total views, 1 views today Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 6 Oct 19 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .   3,134 total views, no views […]

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Should you read this?

HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week?    339 total views, no views today Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 10 Sep 19 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis   177 total views, no views today

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 18 Aug 19 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . . 1,769 total views, 2 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.” Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  6,529 total views, 1 views today Originally […]

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I need you too much already, lah! :o{

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 26 Jul 19 in Demanding, Dire need for love & approval, Needs vs. Preferences, Uncategorized |

I need you too much already, lah!  Well, that is they way we might say it in Thailand or other Southeast Asian countries.  But in spite of the charming local syntax, I reckon that the irrational belief that drives this sentiment is very nearly universal.  Taken to the the extreme, and combined in a cocktail of other […]

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 6 Jun 19 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”   1,273 total views, no views today Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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