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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉   6,912 total views, […]

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MUST I have what I want?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 5 Sep 20 in Demanding, Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

  Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have?  1,257 total views Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

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I need you too much already, lah! :o{

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 23 Aug 20 in Demanding, Dire need for love & approval, Needs vs. Preferences, Uncategorized |

 I need you too much already, lah!  Four Tops – “Baby I Need Your Loving” (1966)  4,152 total views Originally posted 2013-08-01 18:17:04.

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Disguised “Should” statments

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 15 Jul 20 in Disguised shoulds, musterbation, musty thinking, ought, should statements, Why? questions |

  REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.”  Click to find out why . . .  2,340 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

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To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 2 Jul 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, must, musterbation, musty thinking, Needs vs. Preferences, Wants vs. needs |

We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . .    3,631 total views Originally posted […]

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.”  2,324 total views,  5 views today Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 26 May 20 in Albert Ellis, Demanding, Your Opinion Matters |

  Masturbation is good and delicious.  Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . .  3,402 total views Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.

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Should you read this?

HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week?     627 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 10 Sep 19 in Anger, Demanding, Uncategorized |

       People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis    629 total views

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 6 Jun 19 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”    1,507 total views Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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