Tyrany of the Shoulds
In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care” Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.
To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???
We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . . Originally posted 2013-02-25 23:01:10.
How to stop being offended by every little thing
The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.
Disguised “Should” statments
REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Click to find out why . . . Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.
MUST I have what I want?
Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.
Masturbation is good and delicious. Musterbation is evil and pernicious! ~Albert Ellis, PhD Dr. Ellis sometimes used vulgarity and scandalous language . . . Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:48:47.
People and things do not upset us. Rather, we upset ourselves by believing that they can upset us.” ~Albert Ellis Originally posted 2019-09-10 23:05:13.
I need you too much already, lah! :o{
I need you too much already, lah! Four Tops – “Baby I Need Your Loving” (1966) Originally posted 2013-08-01 18:17:04.
Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 Originally posted […]
Should you read this?
HOMEWORK CHALLENGE Are you conscious of how and when you use the words should, must, ought, etc? Will you take the homework challenge this week? Originally posted 2018-09-02 18:11:21.