Judge behavior, not self

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 10 Dec 24 in Acceptance, ePrime, Guilt & Shame, judgment, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |

The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some  other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize  judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA)  […]

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Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 10 Dec 24 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, judgment, People Rating, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, USA |

Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being?  . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . . Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.

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What’s wrong with saying, “I am an EXCELLENT person” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 1 Dec 24 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  We have  bee having a lively–if somewhat perennial–discussion about why REBT dos not favor motivation and bolstering of “self esteem” by using global labels and “rating,”  such as “I am an EXCELLENT person.” Originally posted 2018-12-26 19:54:03.

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“Unconditional” Self Acceptance ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 8 Nov 24 in Acceptance, Basics, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA |

What does “Unconditional”  in Unconditional Self Acceptance Mean  ??? A reader says that his English teacher advised that he avoid “modifiers” as they weaken the strength of the word they are modifying.  So, rather than “Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA)” he just leaves it at “self acceptance.”  Nothing wrong with that, but it does raise some […]

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Escape the “Self Esteem” Trap! Today!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 20 Oct 24 in Acceptance, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |

  So called “self-esteem” is a fallacy, a racket invented by what I call the “Self Esteem MAFIA”  ~Rex Originally posted 2017-03-21 21:08:40.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 1 Oct 24 in Acceptance, Albert Ellis, Books & Media, bookshop |

Stop being a dupe of the “Self-esteem MAFIA!” Originally posted 2018-12-12 12:00:50.

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Will Unconditional Self Acceptance make me lose my edge?

    Sean B. in Florida  asks  Rex.  I think I understand the idea of unconditional self acceptance, in theory at least. But I am afraid that adopting it will cause me to lose my edge and stop striving for excellence in my career.  If I accept myself unconditionally, then do I have to accept it if […]

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 1 Aug 24 in Acceptance, Uncategorized, Videos |

Please check out and support The REBT Advocates Youtube Channel  => bit.ly/REBTvocates , A wealth of information with a pioneer in the field, Dr. Michael R. Edelstein with Tommy Bateman. This one is about “Accepting Unconditional Acceptance.”   Please watch and add your comments. Originally posted 2018-11-27 04:48:51.

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The world sucks, and I can’t stand it!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 10 Jun 24 in Acceptance |

A reader complains about having difficulty controlling anxiety with regard to society and politics. What great questions! You bring up several related but separate issues.   Originally posted 2012-11-02 04:37:07.

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