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Will Unconditional Self Acceptance make me lose my edge?

    Sean B. in Florida  asks  Rex.  I think I understand the idea of unconditional self acceptance, in theory at least. But I am afraid that adopting it will cause me to lose my edge and stop striving for excellence in my career.  If I accept myself unconditionally, then do I have to accept it if […]

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 13 Oct 21 in Acceptance, Perfectionism, Rating, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection, ULA, UOA, USA |

  Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]

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Ten Pounds of Shit in a Five Pound Bag?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 7 Oct 21 in Acceptance, Addictions, Alcoholism, Compulsions, Perfectionism, Procrastination |

Q: The intense Mr. X writes about a pattern of trying to “put 10 pounds of shit into a five pound bag,” that is, making unrealistic plans, and then feeling frustrated,  and anxious about not accomplishing what he set out to do.  Sound familiar?      1,158 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2019-01-05 21:41:42.

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What’s wrong with saying, “I am an EXCELLENT person” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 5 Oct 21 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  We have  bee having a lively–if somewhat perennial–discussion about why REBT dos not favor motivation and bolstering of “self esteem” by using global labels and “rating,”  such as “I am an EXCELLENT person.”  1,408 total views Originally posted 2018-12-26 19:54:03.

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Don’t worry, be happy! :o}

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 20 Sep 21 in Happiness, job burn out, Perfectionism, Your Opinion Matters |

Don’t worry, be happy!”           ~Meher Baba  Say what???   4,420 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2013-06-28 05:05:49.

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Are you making progress?

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Assert your right to make a few mistakes!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 21 Aug 21 in criticism, mistakes, Perfectionism |

      How do you feel about making mistakes?  How do you deal with others when they make mistakes?  Please click the blue link below to join the discussion and share your ideas.  1,669 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2017-06-25 21:39:45.

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Dare to Be Average!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 16 Aug 21 in Books & Media, bookshop, David Burns, Perfectionism, Your Opinion Matters |

One of the most unusual, attention-grabbing, and in my opinion, important chapter titles ever in a self-help book of this kind.  But what on earth could be the reason for such a seemingly negative, almost “anti-American” sentiment?  8,646 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2013-04-29 18:16:46.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 26 Jul 21 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average!  2,788 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?

How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school?  4,701 total views,  1 views today Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.

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