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Task perfection vs. self-perfection

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 30 May 22 in Acceptance, Perfectionism, Rating, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection, ULA, UOA, USA |

  Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]

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Ten Pounds of Shit in a Five Pound Bag?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 18 May 22 in Acceptance, Addictions, Alcoholism, Compulsions, Perfectionism, Procrastination |

Q: The intense Mr. X writes about a pattern of trying to “put 10 pounds of shit into a five pound bag,” that is, making unrealistic plans, and then feeling frustrated,  and anxious about not accomplishing what he set out to do.  Sound familiar?      1,512 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2019-01-05 21:41:42.

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Aim for success, not perfection

Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.”               ~Dr. David M. Burns  2,832 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2013-05-02 22:53:14.

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Dare to Be Average!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 1 May 22 in Books & Media, bookshop, David Burns, Perfectionism, Your Opinion Matters |

One of the most unusual, attention-grabbing, and in my opinion, important chapter titles ever in a self-help book of this kind.  But what on earth could be the reason for such a seemingly negative, almost “anti-American” sentiment?  9,171 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2013-04-29 18:16:46.

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What’s wrong with saying, “I am an EXCELLENT person” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 23 Apr 22 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  We have  bee having a lively–if somewhat perennial–discussion about why REBT dos not favor motivation and bolstering of “self esteem” by using global labels and “rating,”  such as “I am an EXCELLENT person.”  1,637 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2018-12-26 19:54:03.

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Will Unconditional Self Acceptance make me lose my edge?

    Sean B. in Florida  asks  Rex.  I think I understand the idea of unconditional self acceptance, in theory at least. But I am afraid that adopting it will cause me to lose my edge and stop striving for excellence in my career.  If I accept myself unconditionally, then do I have to accept it if […]

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A loyal reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .   8,563 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.

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Dr. Gunars shares how he deals with anxiety about granddaughter not doing well in school

Posted by Gunars Neiders on Mon 11 Apr 22 in ABC Technique, Anxiety, Basics, Disputing, Guest Author, Guest Author Posts, Perfectionism |

Rex, as most of the time, gives a good answer. This is not to offer an alternative to Rex, but a supplement.” Dr. Gunars is a regular contributor to REBT Info, and we are pleased to offer his reply to our recent discussion about managing GAD and anxiety for the a child who is not doing well […]

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection.

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 13 Mar 22 in David Burns, Demanding, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  Dare to be average!  3,055 total views,  2 views today Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.

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Assert your right to make a few mistakes!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 10 Feb 22 in criticism, mistakes, Perfectionism |

      How do you feel about making mistakes?  How do you deal with others when they make mistakes?  Please click the blue link below to join the discussion and share your ideas.  1,917 total views,  3 views today Originally posted 2017-06-25 21:39:45.

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