Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?
In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions. You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure. If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!! Explosion […]
I cried because I had no shoes…
I cried because I had no shoes . . Originally posted 2017-03-25 07:16:16.
Originally posted 2019-03-14 20:12:41.
How to deal with a hen-pecking boss
Boss Mr. Dithers bullies employee Dagwood”Blondie” comic strip King Features Syndicate, 1930s Does the usual advice for improved communications skills and more assertiveness help us to deal with a boss who bullies? Originally posted 2016-03-11 21:21:31.
TRIGGER WARNING!
TRIGGER WARNING! Sorry to be the one to tell you; people, places and things “out there” do not trigger you. You trigger yourself by your distorted interpretations of the trigger. Of course, to understand that, you first need to understand something about REBT-CBT. Originally posted 2017-10-28 17:04:18.
It’s official! “Awfulize” is now a word!
Dr. Ellis coined the term “awfulize” by transforming the adjective “awful” into a verb. The language of REBT can sometimes sound a little contorted, especially when employing “ePrime,” in it’s preference for using more verbs and adverbs than nouns and adjectives. Now, it is official! “Awfulizing” has made it to the big time and is […]
The Sky is Falling!
Originally posted 2019-03-06 06:56:30.
Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 Originally posted […]
Nothing is ever 100% Awful (Are you sure?)
Over at the REBT-CBT Yahoogroup we have been having a fascinating–if-perennial–discussion about whether anything is truly awful . . . And, if it is true, as REBT asserts, that nothing is ever truly 100% awful, how can we convince clients of that? Originally posted 2013-09-25 01:35:17.
Please don’t catastrophize over politics!
It’s not as bad as you think! . . . Or is it ??? Originally posted 2018-11-15 19:37:25.