
To achieve anything in life, you have to make it a “must” ???
We have been having a fascinating, wide-ranging discussion which I think boils down to a few basic-but-important questions: 1. Is it necessary to avoid shoulds, oughts, musts and why’s? in everyday speech? 2 What is the difference between “task-perfection” and “self-perfection.” 3. Can we be motivated without . . . Originally posted 2013-02-25 23:01:10.

Three musts which hold us back
Originally posted 2017-06-03 04:17:41.

Disguised “Should” statments
REBT Mates, it may have been yours truly who coined the term “disguised shoulds.” Click to find out why . . . Originally posted 2017-01-30 21:19:36.

MUST I have what I want?
Do you believe that when you want something, you absolutely MUST have it . . . and that it is terrible when you don’t get what you must have? Originally posted 2016-05-09 02:14:28.

The Meaning of Life
Perhaps there are such people as “pure philosophers” who placidly think about the “meaning of life” as a kind of “recreation,” and are not motivated to do so by existential angst. Originally posted 2015-03-11 05:39:27.

What, more “darling shoulds?”
It’s true! I never tire of talking about my “darling shoulds.” Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:06:07.

Avoid shoulds, oughts, musts!
HOMEWORK Avoid using moralistic, absolutist “shoulds”, “oughts”, “musts”, et al. We don’t want to be rigid and dogmatic in this (and in all things). While keeping in mind there are perfectly innocuous uses of “should”, “ought”, “must”, it is nonetheless an excellent discipline to make the effort to avoid them, and to monitor yourself using […]