Ten Cognitive Distortions & Four IB’s

REBT-CBT is built on the premise that we all make fundamental mistakes in the way we think about ourselves, other people and life in general, and that these mistakes (irrational beliefs and cognitive distortions) are the real cause of (virtually all) of our misery and dysfunction and failure. This is so important!   Continue reading to see […]

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  Originally posted […]

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More internet addiction / Time Management

Guest Author Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D. Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist I , myself, am trying to build more self-discipline by using . . . Originally posted 2013-04-17 18:14:17.

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Pissed beyond all measure!!!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 24 Oct 25 in Anger, Awfulizing, Basics, Demanding, Uncategorized |

Have you ever been “pissed beyond all measure”? Are you ready for your morning REBT safari? Originally posted 2014-10-17 18:57:05.

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Tyrany of the Shoulds

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 23 Oct 25 in Demanding, musterbation, musty thinking |

In recent discussion, Amanda said : Going out for dinner is a choice, bleeding monthly is not, [therefore] it should be covered by our health care”   Originally posted 2017-01-23 04:52:14.

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How to deal with your past errors?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 19 Oct 25 in Albert Ellis, damning, downing, Ellis Quotes, People Rating, Rating, Shame, USA |

By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future.” ~Albert Ellis   Originally posted 2017-06-17 06:21:04.

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Self-help forms.

Willie T. has been making some interesting comments about whether REBT is “talk therapy” or something else. He shares some additional information which hits on a sore spot of mine–mechanically filling out forms–and is worth exploring in greater depth.  Here’s Willie.  We’ve taken the liberty of running the SpellCheck for him.  Hehehe . . . […]

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12 Lies We Tell Ourselves

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 9 Oct 25 in Ellis Four Irational Processes, ethics, Ten Cognitive Distortions, Uncategorized |

12 lies we tell ourselves by Albert Ellis 1. I must have the love and approval of others i must avoid disapproval at all costs. Click to see the other 11 . . .    Originally posted 2019-08-24 18:16:34.

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How to stop being offended by every little thing

The world would be a better place if everyone stopped being offended by every little thing.” Originally posted 2016-06-18 09:45:44.

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Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 25 Sep 25 in Awfulizing, Humor |

  Contributed by Jonathan Von Breton. Thanks for the chuckle, Jonathan! Originally posted 2019-07-02 22:31:06.

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