Task perfection vs. self-perfection.
Dare to be average! Originally posted 2016-08-22 20:50:01.
Assert your right to make a few mistakes!
How do you feel about making mistakes? How do you deal with others when they make mistakes? Please click the blue link below to join the discussion and share your ideas. Originally posted 2017-06-25 21:39:45.
American exceptionalism (REBT style)
On another thread, we have been discussing America being the greatest country in the world, that is so called “American Exceptionalism.” Originally posted 2016-06-17 05:30:58.
You don’t get to judge me! (or do you?)
You don’t get to Judge me!!! Originally posted 2013-09-08 20:05:28.
Self acceptance is not a “thing.”
Here is a good one from the 2008 archives about self-esteem and self acceptance: By refusing to “devalue yourself because of your ignorance” perhaps you do understand more than you think. Originally posted 2015-04-16 04:22:58.
Judge behavior, not self
The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA) […]
Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?
Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being? . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . . Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.
Dr. Ellis on Unconditional Self Acceptance – Video
This is part of a wonderful audio recording of Dr.Albert Ellis on Unconditionally Accepting Yourself and Others. Click to listen. Originally posted 2013-08-02 20:48:25.
What’s wrong with saying, “I am an EXCELLENT person” ???
We have bee having a lively–if somewhat perennial–discussion about why REBT dos not favor motivation and bolstering of “self esteem” by using global labels and “rating,” such as “I am an EXCELLENT person.” Originally posted 2018-12-26 19:54:03.
“Secondary disturbance” is not secondary in signifance.
We have been having some great discussions lately over at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup. Thm raised an honest and important question and was kind enough to allow me to re-post it here. Thanks, Thm! His question and my response follows. Your follow-up comments and questions are encouraged and welcomed. Originally posted 2013-12-07 03:57:31.