Judge behavior, not self
The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA) […]
Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?
Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being? . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . . Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.
Dr. Ellis on Unconditional Self Acceptance – Video
This is part of a wonderful audio recording of Dr.Albert Ellis on Unconditionally Accepting Yourself and Others. Click to listen. Originally posted 2013-08-02 20:48:25.
Mortification of the Self
MORTIFICATION of the EGO This may seem tangential to REBT. It definitely leans more to the philosophical than therapeutic. I think the conclusion brings the therapeutic aspect into clearer focus. The “ego” or “self” or however you want to describe or define it, comes preinstalled on all humans so far as we know, […]
“Secondary disturbance” is not secondary in signifance.
We have been having some great discussions lately over at the REBT-CBT Forum Yahoogroup. Thm raised an honest and important question and was kind enough to allow me to re-post it here. Thanks, Thm! His question and my response follows. Your follow-up comments and questions are encouraged and welcomed. Originally posted 2013-12-07 03:57:31.
How to deal with your past errors?
By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future.” ~Albert Ellis Originally posted 2017-06-17 06:21:04.
“Unconditional” Self Acceptance ???
What does “Unconditional” in Unconditional Self Acceptance Mean ??? A reader says that his English teacher advised that he avoid “modifiers” as they weaken the strength of the word they are modifying. So, rather than “Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA)” he just leaves it at “self acceptance.” Nothing wrong with that, but it does raise some […]
Task perfection vs. self-perfection
Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]
Escape the “Self Esteem” Trap! Today!
So called “self-esteem” is a fallacy, a racket invented by what I call the “Self Esteem MAFIA” ~Rex Originally posted 2017-03-21 21:08:40.
Stoic Philosophy and REBT
The gods have released you from accountability for your parents, your siblings, your body, your possessions – for death and for life itself. They made you responsible only for what is in your power – the proper use of impressions. So why take on the burden of matters which you cannot answer for? You […]