Escape the “Self Esteem” Trap! Today!
So called “self-esteem” is a fallacy, a racket invented by what I call the “Self Esteem MAFIA” ~Rex Originally posted 2017-03-21 21:08:40.
Don’t call me an asshole, you big dickhead!
As advocates of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), it’s clear that we face a challenging task. Convincing people to abstain from name-calling, labeling, and overgeneralization seems almost impossible, especially in today’s era of social media where such behavior is rampant. This issue is of utmost importance, given the toxicity and inflammatory nature of name-calling. Yet, […]
Don’t Let ’em See You Sweat!
This from an old friend from the REBT-CBT-FORUM@yahoogroups.com whom we have not heard from for a long time. This person has been struggling with anxiety and although works diligently applying REBT-CBT techniques, does not appear to be getting much traction. Although I am not psychic, I think I may have an idea as to why. […]
Will Unconditional Self Acceptance make me lose my edge?
Sean B. in Florida asks Rex. I think I understand the idea of unconditional self acceptance, in theory at least. But I am afraid that adopting it will cause me to lose my edge and stop striving for excellence in my career. If I accept myself unconditionally, then do I have to accept it if […]
Self acceptance is not a “thing.”
Here is a good one from the 2008 archives about self-esteem and self acceptance: By refusing to “devalue yourself because of your ignorance” perhaps you do understand more than you think. Originally posted 2015-04-16 04:22:58.
Judge behavior, not self
The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA) […]
Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?
Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being? . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . . Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.
Dr. Ellis on Unconditional Self Acceptance – Video
This is part of a wonderful audio recording of Dr.Albert Ellis on Unconditionally Accepting Yourself and Others. Click to listen. Originally posted 2013-08-02 20:48:25.
Distorted thinking is at the root of “neurosis”
“Much of what we call emotion is nothing more or less than a certain kind – a biased, prejudiced, or strongly evaluative kind – of thought.” ~Albert Ellis, Rational Psychotherapy and Individual Psychology Originally posted 2016-03-08 20:20:42.