Acceptance is not love!

Your Opinion Matters

"Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human."

~Albert Ellis

 This is one of the premises of REBT-CBT that often confuses and pisses off people.  It is closely related to the irrational belief / IB that one absolutely must have love and love oneself (so called "self esteem")  in order to be happy. 

What do you think it means?

Share you thoughts and comments! Please help to keep our blog dynamic and organic by sharing your comments below. Agree? Disagree? How do you interpret this statement? Do you think it affects the way you practice and apply REBT-CBT? read more

Originally posted 2013-05-02 07:39:44.



Interview with Dr. Ellis

Posted by Rex Alexander on Thu 19 Oct 17 in Albert Ellis, Basics, Your Opinion Matters |
Albert Ellis: A Guide to Rational Living – Thinking Allowed DVD w/ Jeffrey Mishlove NOTE: This is an excerpt from the full 90-minute DVD.


 Click the blue link below to read more and watch the Albert Ellis video

Originally posted 2013-05-24 18:37:19.

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Difference between “rational statements” & “positive thinking” ?


Originally posted 2013-08-29 05:05:56.


Kindness is the cuse of all anxiety (???)

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 7 Oct 17 in Anxiety, David Burns, Your Opinion Matters |

Kindness is the cause of all anxiety. 

~Dr. David M. Burns

I have never run across this enigmatic quote by Dr. Burns before today.  Anyone familiar with it?  What on Earth do you think it means?

Originally posted 2013-05-15 06:35:36.

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New Feature: Your Opinion Matters!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 15 Aug 17 in Regular Columns & Features, Your Opinion Matters |

We are starting a new regular column called “Your Opinion Matters!” 

Originally posted 2013-04-29 05:40:18.

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Don’t worry, be happy! :o}

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 15 Aug 17 in Happiness, job burn out, Perfectionism, Your Opinion Matters |

Don’t worry, be happy!” 
   ~Meher Baba

Say what?  Click the blue link below to continue reading and join the discussion.

Originally posted 2013-06-28 05:05:49.

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The Gospel According to St.Albert

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 15 Aug 17 in Albert Ellis, Regular Columns & Features, Your Opinion Matters |

Your Opinion Matters

“I’m very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it-going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.”  ~Albert Ellis

Welcome to our  very first “Your Opinion Matters” Column! 

Some people are offput by Dr. Ellis’s abrupt manner and  feel that he might have served the cause of REBT better if he toned down some of his acerbic and arrogant-sounding remarks. Of his many quotable quotes, the one above is actually pretty tame.   Personally, I find his salty, “take no prisoners” approach refreshing.  read more

Originally posted 2013-04-29 08:05:04.


Distorted thinking is at the root of “neurosis”

“Much of what we call emotion is nothing more or less than a certain kind – a biased, prejudiced, or strongly evaluative kind – of thought.”
~Albert Ellis, Rational Psychotherapy and Individual Psychology

The intimate relationship between thinking, emoting and behaving is one largely ignored by most forms of

Originally posted 2016-03-08 20:20:42.


What is the purpose of life?

We have been having a great time with our friends over at the REBT-CBT Forum discussing the timeless question, What is the Purpose of Life?  Actually, REBT has quite a bit to say about this, but I fear that what it has to say is not very satisfying to those who raise the question!  Click the blue link below to read my take and to jon the discussion.

Originally posted 2013-10-20 21:57:41.


What causes disturbed feelings?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 9 Jul 17 in Emotions, Uncategorized, Your Opinion Matters |

What causes disturbed feelings?
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Originally posted 2013-06-27 23:34:06.

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