Don’t worry, be happy! :o}

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 22 Jan 25 in Happiness, job burn out, Perfectionism, Your Opinion Matters |

Don’t worry, be happy!”           ~Meher Baba  Say what???  Originally posted 2013-06-28 05:05:49.

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Are you making progress?

Originally posted 2017-11-03 06:54:35.

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Is a “Happy-go-lucky” attitude an answer to anxiety?

How do we deal with anxiety about the future of a son who is not doing well in high school? Originally posted 2014-07-13 03:53:10.

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What’s wrong with saying, “I am an EXCELLENT person” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 1 Dec 24 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, Perfectionism, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection |

  We have  bee having a lively–if somewhat perennial–discussion about why REBT dos not favor motivation and bolstering of “self esteem” by using global labels and “rating,”  such as “I am an EXCELLENT person.” Originally posted 2018-12-26 19:54:03.

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Task perfection vs. self-perfection

Posted by Rex Alexander on Fri 25 Oct 24 in Acceptance, Perfectionism, Rating, Task Perfection vs. Self Perfection, ULA, UOA, USA |

  Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]

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Ten Pounds of Shit in a Five Pound Bag?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sun 13 Oct 24 in Acceptance, Addictions, Alcoholism, Compulsions, Perfectionism, Procrastination |

Q: The intense Mr. X writes about a pattern of trying to “put 10 pounds of shit into a five pound bag,” that is, making unrealistic plans, and then feeling frustrated,  and anxious about not accomplishing what he set out to do.  Sound familiar?     Originally posted 2019-01-05 21:41:42.

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Aim for success, not perfection

Aim for success, not perfection. Never give up your right to be wrong, because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.”               ~Dr. David M. Burns Originally posted 2013-05-02 22:53:14.

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Dare to Be Average!

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 2 Oct 24 in Books & Media, bookshop, David Burns, Perfectionism, Your Opinion Matters |

One of the most unusual, attention-grabbing, and in my opinion, important chapter titles ever in a self-help book of this kind.  But what on earth could be the reason for such a seemingly negative, almost “anti-American” sentiment? Originally posted 2013-04-29 18:16:46.

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Will Unconditional Self Acceptance make me lose my edge?

    Sean B. in Florida  asks  Rex.  I think I understand the idea of unconditional self acceptance, in theory at least. But I am afraid that adopting it will cause me to lose my edge and stop striving for excellence in my career.  If I accept myself unconditionally, then do I have to accept it if […]

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A loyal reader asks about managing job burnout What a great topic! There is an expectation that has become common since the 1960’s that work is “supposed” to be fulfilling, satisfying, fun, even meaningful . . .  Originally posted 2013-06-25 02:53:25.

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