Judge behavior, not self
The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA) […]
Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?
Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being? . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . . Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.
Is “should” ever necessary?
A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______ (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”? Thank you.” Ah, yes! Our “Darling Shoulds!” How we resist relinquishing them! As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds! 😉 Originally posted […]
Why is it so wrong to want to kill yourself?
A reader of my lengthy post on suicide on another site responds in part “Why is it so wrong to want to move on [kill yourself] before your natural physical body tells you to This is not expressing a view more a question for discussion” Originally posted 2014-08-16 18:12:15.
How to deal with your past errors?
By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future.” ~Albert Ellis Originally posted 2017-06-17 06:21:04.
“Unconditional” Self Acceptance ???
What does “Unconditional” in Unconditional Self Acceptance Mean ??? A reader says that his English teacher advised that he avoid “modifiers” as they weaken the strength of the word they are modifying. So, rather than “Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA)” he just leaves it at “self acceptance.” Nothing wrong with that, but it does raise some […]
A reader is confused about labels and self-rating
Rate behavior . . . not self, and you are doing good ePrime and on the right track for doing good REBT. This process is even more comprehensible and user-friendly if you learn something about ePrime, which is not too much of a stretch Originally posted 2013-07-17 02:39:22.
Task perfection vs. self-perfection
Many confuse the REBT idea of Unconditional Self-acceptance (USA) with being cavalier unconcerned about how well they perform, and fear that embracing might cause them to lose their edge in a competitive, results-oriented society, possibly losing their work ethic and slipping into a passive, dysfunctional lifestyle. While this concern is understandable, it is unfounded. […]
Escape the “Self Esteem” Trap! Today!
So called “self-esteem” is a fallacy, a racket invented by what I call the “Self Esteem MAFIA” ~Rex Originally posted 2017-03-21 21:08:40.
Are opinions incompatible with REBT-CBT?
Are opinions incompatible with REBT??? What do you think? Originally posted 2013-04-20 18:13:40.