“Bad People” ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 16 Aug 25 in Emotions, Mindfulness, Rating, REBT & Other therapies compared |

Most people think here are a lot of bad people running around in the world . . .                  ~Sam Harris Originally posted 2017-08-15 21:53:26.

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What is REBT?

Posted by Will Ross on Fri 1 Aug 25 in Acceptance, Basics, Guest Author, Guilt & Shame, Happiness, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA, What is REBT - CBT? |

This post is pinned to the top. Scroll down for recent posts REBT / Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy What the hell is it, anyway??? Click the blue  link below  for Will Ross’s excellent, easy-to-follow explanation . . . Originally posted 2013-03-27 18:01:44.

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Is keeping emotions “bottled up” dangerous?

In my callow and shallow youth, I used to subscribe to the “teapot model” of emotions.  You know, our emotional systems are like teapots with water boiling, generating steam and pressure.  If the steam does not have an outlet, or the outlet becomes overwhelmed by too much steam expanding too quickly . . . POW !!!  Explosion […]

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American exceptionalism (REBT style)

Posted by Rex Alexander on Mon 30 Jun 25 in General Semantics, overgeneralization, People Rating, Rating |

On another thread, we have been discussing America being the greatest country in the world, that is so called “American Exceptionalism.” Originally posted 2016-06-17 05:30:58.

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Judge behavior, not self

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 28 May 25 in Acceptance, ePrime, Guilt & Shame, judgment, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |

The long and the short of it is, however, that REBT-CBT–as do some  other modern psychological approaches and schools of psychology–encourages people to distinguish between self and behavior, and to recognize  judgments or global ratings as irrational and unhelpful, and to instead practice Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA), Unconditional Other Acceptance (UOA) and Unconditional Life Acceptance (ULA)  […]

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Why “can’t” you rate the essence of a human?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Wed 28 May 25 in Acceptance, ePrime, General Semantics, judgment, People Rating, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, USA |

Jane asks a very important question: Why does REBT say you cannot define or rate the essence of a human being?  . . . Click to read her full question and my reply . . . Originally posted 2013-12-15 23:16:48.

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Is “should” ever necessary?

A faithful reader asks What’s the best response to “I should have ______  (done x y z more) and if I had, things would be different now”?     Thank you.”       Ah, yes!  Our “Darling Shoulds!”  How we resist relinquishing them!   As if they were some jewel more precious than diamonds!   😉  Originally posted […]

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Why is it so wrong to want to kill yourself?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Tue 13 May 25 in Acceptance, Rating, suicide |

   A reader of my lengthy post on suicide on another site responds in part “Why is it so wrong to want to move on [kill yourself]  before your natural physical body tells you to This is not expressing a view more a question for discussion” Originally posted 2014-08-16 18:12:15.

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How to deal with your past errors?

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 3 May 25 in Albert Ellis, damning, downing, Ellis Quotes, People Rating, Rating, Shame, USA |

By honestly acknowledging your past errors, but never damning yourself for them, you can learn to use your past for your own future.” ~Albert Ellis   Originally posted 2017-06-17 06:21:04.

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“Unconditional” Self Acceptance ???

Posted by Rex Alexander on Sat 26 Apr 25 in Acceptance, Basics, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA |

What does “Unconditional”  in Unconditional Self Acceptance Mean  ??? A reader says that his English teacher advised that he avoid “modifiers” as they weaken the strength of the word they are modifying.  So, rather than “Unconditional Self Acceptance (USA)” he just leaves it at “self acceptance.”  Nothing wrong with that, but it does raise some […]

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