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WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!

Look, I realize our banner must seem pretty demanding, but it really isn’t a “demand,”  just a strong preference! hehehehe . . .  Just a little (very little) REBT humor for you! clap

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What is REBT?

Posted by Rex on Wed 27 Mar 13 in Acceptance, Basics, Guilt & Shame, Happiness, Rating, ULA, UOA, USA, What is REBT - CBT? |
 

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REBT /
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy What the hell is it, anyway???

Click the “more”  link below  for Will Ross’s exxcellent, easy-to-follow explanatoin . . .

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What are you ???

Posted by Rex on Thu 18 May 17 in ePrime, General Semantics, Homework |
 


HOMEWORK

 

(1) When you think of who and what you are, do you think your “nature” or “essence” is more like a fountain or a statue?

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ISes Don’t, And Nouns Are Not

Posted by John Chase Schaeffer on Thu 18 May 17 in ePrime, General Semantics, Humor |
 

 

We are very pleased to include the whimsical-yet-profound poetic exploration of what I call “The Tyranny of the Nouns!”  by John Chase Schaeffer.  Enjoy!  Thanks, John!

 

                     

ISes Don’t, And Nouns Are Not 

By nonistJohn Schaeffer

 

 

What does it DO?  What makes it GO?  That’s all we’re ever apt to know.
Show me an IS that doesn’t DO, I’ll show you how it isn’t, too. 

 

‘Cause something IS as something DOES.  It isn’t IS.  And that’s because,
it does a “do”….  it goes a “go”.  But what it IS we’ll never know. 

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Upcoming Events at AEI

 

 

UPCOMING EVENTS AT ALBERT ELLIS INSTITUTE
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“Beat me!” pleaded the masochist.

Posted by Rex on Fri 7 Apr 17 in communication, Self-interest |
 

Sat 8 Apr 2017, 7:32 am

Hi REBT-mates!

Remember the old joke: Just because I am paranoid, doesn’t mean people aren’t really out to get me! Jokes aside, sometimes someone or someones really ARE out to get you. However, I think these cases are actually pretty rare, and even in such cases, the two peeps may be playing out a sort of dominant-submissive scenario, a kind of dance between the bully and the victim. Having said that–and this is the important thing–most of the time, none of that applies.

Most of the time, I reckon, what we perceive as deliberately hurtful behavior is really just two peeps pursuing their own self-interests and getting in each other’s way, sort of stepping on each other’s toes in the process. That does not excuse hurtful behavior, of course, but understanding this process can take some of the sting out of a conflict and give you the “breathing space” to attend to the situation or the relationship more rationally and helpfully.

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Depression leading cause of illness, disability

Posted by Gunars Neiders on Sun 2 Apr 17 in Depression, Postive thinkikng |
 

Depression leading cause of illness, disability 

Dr. Gunars comments on this unsurprising finding by WHO

Depression is leading cause of illness, disability worldwide – WHO – RT News
https://www.rt.com/news/382995-depression-illness-disability-who/

 

Dr. Gunars Nelder

I have found that some of diagnosed depression is simply a negative focus. All news is negative. We are predisposed tendency to focus on negative events.

I have frequently found that  when I ask my clients each day upon awakening, at lunch, and before going to bed  to write in their journal something serendipitous, something that they have handled well, something from their senses that is enjoyable (cup of coffee, a symphony, a piece of art, a flower, sunshine, etc.) If they have a significant other, I advise them that they exchange three positive things each day upon encountering them (for example in the morning, at supper, etc.). At night I still ask them to journal three good things.

Developing this attitude of gratitude seems to help most of the people, but is unbelievably effective with some of the people.

Example of positives:

  1. Today I was reminded that REBT-CBT Forum is still up.
  2. That I do help clients both with REBT but also with other techniques.
  3. That I can submit first draft thoughts to the Forum, and not spend long hours polishing them.

Gunars

Gunars K. Neiders, Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist
neidersg@comcast.net
www.stutteringpsychotherapy.com
author From Stuttering to Fluency: Manage
Your Emotions and Live More Fully

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I cried because I had no shoes…

Posted by Rex on Sat 25 Mar 17 in Awfulzing, Emotions, Guilt & Shame |
 

The old proverb “I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet” (in various forms attributed to Chinese, Indian, Jewish, Irish and other origins. Versions are attributed to Tolstoy, Helen Keller and others, and go as far back as the 13th Century to the Persian poet Sa’ di) never did resonated for me. It is guilt-provoking. It is not that I lack empathy for the poor, footless man, but I am a selfish bastard and I still want my shoes, goddamit! Still, I have a choice. I can regard my lack of shoes (the “activating event”) as unfortunate and annoying, and think about what I can do to remedy it, or live with it if I cannot remedy it. That type of healthy, “cool” thinking will produce annoyance, frustration, disappointment, sadness; all healthy, “natural” emotions from the REBT standpoint. The problem arises, however, when I think my lack of shoes is TERRIBLE, AWFUL, THE END OF THE WORLD! When I tell myself that I CAN’T STAND IT! Isn’t that exactly what little kids do? They erupt in a bloody tantrum over some issue (activating event) that adults immediately recognize as trivial. So far as I know, REBT is the only therapeutic approach that teaches clients to clearly distinguish between what it terms healthy and unhealthy emoting. For example, annoyance and irritation are healthy while anger, rage, bitterness and resentment are unhealthy. That is, unhealthy in the sense of being unhelpful and ultimately self-defeating. Most people do not make such distinctions and are therefore a kind of emotional prisoner in an Alice in Wonderland world,over-emoting or under-emoting unable to find that “sweet spot” that lets them behave in ways which are rewarding and self-fulling, and lead them to get more of what they want and less of what they do not want.

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Escape the “Self Esteem” Trap! Today!

Posted by Rex on Tue 21 Mar 17 in Acceptance, Rating, Self esteem, self vs. behavior, ULA, UOA, USA |
 

 

So called “self-esteem” is a fallacy, a racket invented by what I call the “Self Esteem MAFIA” designed to make you feel inadequate so you will buy their crappy books, videos and seminars–and as such things are almost guaranteed not to work, it is highly likely that you will blame yourself therefore feeling even more inadequate, and buying more crappy books, videos and seminars that don’t work.  And the beat goes on . . .

I am going to show you how to begin doing something real that you can do about your feelings of low self-esteem today, right now, that will make a big difference in your life if you apply it.  It will make an even bigger difference if this surprises, delights  and turns you on so you are motivated to pursue REBT in a more depth way.
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Albert Ellis Institute Upcoming Events

 

 

Welcome to the Albert Ellis Institute. Below is a listing of our upcoming events.

 

Upcoming Workshops & Training
Albert Ellis Institute is proud to offer Continuing Education/Contact Hours for Professionals. Albert Ellis Institute is approved by American Psychological Association, National Board of Certified Counselors,the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Social Workers and the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Licensed Mental Health Counselors.

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Are humans “animals” or another class of life entirely?

Posted by Rex on Mon 6 Mar 17 in ePrime, General Semantics, REBT & Other therapies compared |
 
 

 

Are humans animals or something else entirely?

Hi REBT Mates,

This post may not be of interest to the casual reader and is more relevant to General Semantics than REBT, per se.  We have been having a discussion on the General Semantics facebook group about one of Korzybsk’s early assertions fundamental to General Semantics that man is not an animal, but rather a entirely different “class” of life. I reject this assertion as a bit  “19th Century” and a suffering from a hangover from the Judeo-Christian tradition. Dyed-in-the-wool GS people, however, strongly disagree and defend the premise

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e-Prime: Roses seem red . . .

Posted by Rex on Wed 15 Feb 17 in e-Prime, General Semantics |
 

Roses seem red,
Violets look blue,
e-Prime poetry
Sucks big time too
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Hi REBT Mates!

OK, let’s admit it, poetry is one of the few areas where e-Prime doesn’t work very well.  In fact, it sucks!  And doesn’t help that I ain’t no poet!  I have just published a page containing a lengthy, in-depth e-Prime tutorial by the mysterious Don Scorpio. Although  I am not fluent in e-Prime, I have found that knowing and applying some of the fundamentals continues to accelerate and deepen my appreciation of REBT. Be warned, this is a serious, in-dept tutorial, but well worth the investment if you are interested in e-Prime, General Semantics (GS) and REBT. Have a looksee and let us know what you think. Please share with others who may be interested.

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