(1) When you think of who and what you are, do you think your “nature” or “essence” is more like a fountain or a statue?
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We are very pleased to include the whimsical-yet-profound poetic exploration of what I call “The Tyranny of the Nouns!” by John Chase Schaeffer. Enjoy! Thanks, John!
ISes Don’t, And Nouns Are Not
By nonistJohn Schaeffer
What does it DO? What makes it GO? That’s all we’re ever apt to know.
Show me an IS that doesn’t DO, I’ll show you how it isn’t, too.
‘Cause something IS as something DOES. It isn’t IS. And that’s because,
it does a “do”…. it goes a “go”. But what it IS we’ll never know.
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UPCOMING EVENTS AT ALBERT ELLIS INSTITUTE
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Sat 8 Apr 2017, 7:32 am
Remember the old joke: Just because I am paranoid, doesn’t mean people aren’t really out to get me! Jokes aside, sometimes someone or someones really ARE out to get you. However, I think these cases are actually pretty rare, and even in such cases, the two peeps may be playing out a sort of dominant-submissive scenario, a kind of dance between the bully and the victim. Having said that–and this is the important thing–most of the time, none of that applies.
Most of the time, I reckon, what we perceive as deliberately hurtful behavior is really just two peeps pursuing their own self-interests and getting in each other’s way, sort of stepping on each other’s toes in the process. That does not excuse hurtful behavior, of course, but understanding this process can take some of the sting out of a conflict and give you the “breathing space” to attend to the situation or the relationship more rationally and helpfully.
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Depression leading cause of illness, disability
Dr. Gunars comments on this unsurprising finding by WHO
Depression is leading cause of illness, disability worldwide – WHO – RT News
I have found that some of diagnosed depression is simply a negative focus. All news is negative. We are predisposed tendency to focus on negative events.
I have frequently found that when I ask my clients each day upon awakening, at lunch, and before going to bed to write in their journal something serendipitous, something that they have handled well, something from their senses that is enjoyable (cup of coffee, a symphony, a piece of art, a flower, sunshine, etc.) If they have a significant other, I advise them that they exchange three positive things each day upon encountering them (for example in the morning, at supper, etc.). At night I still ask them to journal three good things.
Developing this attitude of gratitude seems to help most of the people, but is unbelievably effective with some of the people.
Example of positives:
- Today I was reminded that REBT-CBT Forum is still up.
- That I do help clients both with REBT but also with other techniques.
- That I can submit first draft thoughts to the Forum, and not spend long hours polishing them.
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The old proverb “I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man with no feet” (in various forms attributed to Chinese, Indian, Jewish, Irish and other origins. Versions are attributed to Tolstoy, Helen Keller and others, and go as far back as the 13th Century to the Persian poet Sa’ di) never did resonated for me. It is guilt-provoking. It is not that I lack empathy for the poor, footless man, but I am a selfish bastard and I still want my shoes, goddamit! Still, I have a choice. I can regard my lack of shoes (the “activating event”) as unfortunate and annoying, and think about what I can do to remedy it, or live with it if I cannot remedy it. That type of healthy, “cool” thinking will produce annoyance, frustration, disappointment, sadness; all healthy, “natural” emotions from the REBT standpoint. The problem arises, however, when I think my lack of shoes is TERRIBLE, AWFUL, THE END OF THE WORLD! When I tell myself that I CAN’T STAND IT! Isn’t that exactly what little kids do? They erupt in a bloody tantrum over some issue (activating event) that adults immediately recognize as trivial. So far as I know, REBT is the only therapeutic approach that teaches clients to clearly distinguish between what it terms healthy and unhealthy emoting. For example, annoyance and irritation are healthy while anger, rage, bitterness and resentment are unhealthy. That is, unhealthy in the sense of being unhelpful and ultimately self-defeating. Most people do not make such distinctions and are therefore a kind of emotional prisoner in an Alice in Wonderland world,over-emoting or under-emoting unable to find that “sweet spot” that lets them behave in ways which are rewarding and self-fulling, and lead them to get more of what they want and less of what they do not want.
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Hi REBT Mates,
This post may not be of interest to the casual reader and is more relevant to General Semantics than REBT, per se. We have been having a discussion on the General Semantics facebook group about one of Korzybsk’s early assertions fundamental to General Semantics that man is not an animal, but rather a entirely different “class” of life. I reject this assertion as a bit “19th Century” and a suffering from a hangover from the Judeo-Christian tradition. Dyed-in-the-wool GS people, however, strongly disagree and defend the premise
For those who are interested in GS, please feel free to continue reading and join in the discussion.
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Roses seem red,
Violets look blue,
Sucks big time too!
Hi REBT Mates!
OK, let’s admit it, poetry is one of the few areas where e-Prime doesn’t work very well. In fact, it sucks! And doesn’t help that I ain’t no poet! I have just published a page containing a lengthy, in-depth e-Prime tutorial by the mysterious Don Scorpio. Although I am not fluent in e-Prime, I have found that knowing and applying some of the fundamentals continues to accelerate and deepen my appreciation of REBT. Be warned, this is a serious, in-dept tutorial, but well worth the investment if you are interested in e-Prime, General Semantics (GS) and REBT. Have a looksee and let us know what you think. Please share with others who may be interested.
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